“Our Souls Are Mirrors” by Rupi Kaur

god must have kneaded you and i
from the same dough
rolled us out as one on the baking sheet
must have suddenly realized
how unfair it was
to put that much magic in one person
and sadly split that dough in two
how else is it that
when i look in the mirror
i am looking at you
when you breathe
my own lungs fill with air
that we just met but we
have known each other our whole lives
if we were not made as one to begin with

The Wedding Dates to Avoid in 2019 and 2020

By Kim Forrest

Check out our list of dates in 2019 and 2020 that you MIGHT want to avoid for your own wedding day.

Many couples choose to avoid holding their weddings on holidays, because of concern that guests won’t be able to attend due to longstanding travel plans or family events. Holiday weekends can also be more expensive for you, because vendors may be extra busy with other non-wedding events (think florists on Mother’s Day or caterers on Thanksgiving), as well as for your guests, who might have trouble booking affordable accommodations and flights. You also may want to steer clear of major sporting events or other big national or local events – and traditionally “unlucky” days, like Friday the 13th. But really, your wedding date is your choice—if you don’t think hosting your wedding on a particular holiday will affect the planning too much (and there aren’t any religious exclusions), then go for it!

Check out our list of wedding dates to (potentially) avoid in 2018 and 2019.

New Year’s Day: Tuesday, January 1, 2019; Wednesday, January 1, 2020

Martin Luther King Jr. Day: Monday, January 21, 2019; Monday, January 20, 2020

Super Bowl Sunday: Sunday, February 3, 2019 (especially in Atlanta, Ga.); Sunday, February 2, 2020 (especially in Miami, Fla.)

Valentine’s Day: Thursday, February 14, 2019; Friday, February 14, 2020

Presidents’ Day: Monday, February 18, 2019; Monday, February 17, 2020

Academy Awards: Sunday, February 24, 2019; Sunday, February 9, 2020 (especially in Los Angeles)

April Fool’s Day: Monday, April 1, 2019; Wednesday, April 1, 2020

Final Four: Saturday, April 6 and Monday, April 8, 2019 (especially in Minneapolis, Minn.); Saturday, April 4 and Monday April 6, 2020 (especially in Atlanta, Ga.)

Palm Sunday: Sunday April 14, 2019; Sunday, April 5, 2020

Passover: Friday, April 19 through Saturday, April 27, 2019; Wednesday, April 8 through Thursday, April 16, 2020

Easter: Sunday, April 21, 2019; Sunday, April 12, 2020

Mother’s Day: Sunday, May 12, 2019; Sunday, May 10, 2020

Memorial Day: Monday, May 27, 2019; Monday, May 25, 2020

Friday the 13th: Friday, September 13, 2019; Friday, December 13, 2019; Friday, March 13, 2020; Friday, November 13, 2020

Father’s Day: Sunday, June 16, 2019; Sunday, June 21, 2020

Fourth of July: Thursday, July 4, 2019; Saturday, July 4, 2020

Labor Day: Monday, September 2, 2019; Monday, September 7, 2020

Rosh Hashanah: Sunday, September 29 through Tuesday, October 1, 2019; Friday September 18 through Sunday, September 20, 2020

Yom Kippur: Tuesday, October 8 through Wednesday, October 9, 2019; Sunday, September 27 through Monday, September 28, 2020

Columbus Day: Monday, October 14, 2019; Monday, October 12, 2020

Halloween: Thursday, October 31, 2019; Saturday, October 31, 2020

Veterans Day: Monday, November 11, 2019; Wednesday, November 11, 2020

Thanksgiving: Thursday, November 28, 2019; Thursday, November 26, 2020

Christmas:  Wednesday, December 25, 2019; Friday, December 25, 2020

Kwanzaa: Thursday, December 26, 2019 through Wednesday, January 1, 2020; Saturday, December 26, 2020 through Friday, January 1, 2021

New Year’s Eve: Tuesday, December 31, 2019; Thursday, December 31, 2020


How To Build Lasting Love In Your Marriage

By Ngozi Nwoke 

Do you desire to have lasting love in your marriage? This is surely the wish of many Christian couples, however many of their relationships are either struggling or collapsing. This is not God's desire for any of His children. This article aims at enlightening you on how to build lasting love in your marriage.

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail... - I Corinthians 13:4-8 (NKJV).

Marriage is a spiritual institution and so should not be entered into or followed in the flesh, you need the help of God. Marriage is more than mere "I DO" though it's part of the beginning. It is the bonding of a woman and a man spirit, soul and body. That's why if you have sex, which is of marriage, with a harlot you become one with her and reap the consequences of it, the wrath of God.

For one to have lasting love in marriage you must know LOVE Himself. God is love (I John 4:8)! How much you know Him determines how lasting your love for your spouse will be. Your love for God determines how much you will love your spouse. I'm not talking about Eros (Love of the body or sexual desire) or Philia (Brotherly love), though you need them in marriage. I am talking about Agape love if lasting love is what you desire to have in your marriage. You need to love your spouse with the love of God. It will always pass the test of time. Others may fail but not Agape love.

God's kind of love

The scriptures in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 give a description of what God's love is. This is how to love your spouse, no conditions attached. That was how Jesus loved us that while we were yet sinners He died for us. God expects us to love our spouses like Jesus loves us. You are to love him or her, not because he or she loves you but essentially because you love God and you want to please Him. Otherwise, if you ever think that your spouse doesn't love you again, you may quit loving him.

What next?

In marriage, it's not about what you can get from your spouse or what he or she can give you; it is about what you can give him or her. Marriage is about what you can contribute into his or her life. God thought about marriage and instituted it because He felt something was missing in Adam and He made a helpmeet for Him. So, in marriage you are to supply whatever may be lacking in your spouse. You are not to get him or her to supply what is lacking in you; that shouldn't be your focus. For you to have lasting love, you need to mind your own part of responsibility and believe God to help your spouse do his or her own part.

The truth is that if you are depending on your spouse to make you happy you will be in trouble. He or she doesn't have the capacity to do that. Your happiness and joy lie in God. If He fulfills it through your husband or wife, that's great. But you must choose to solely depend on God for everything in your marriage. Choose to please God all the time and you will always please your spouse, and he or she will reciprocate same to you. Jesus, desiring to please God, the Father, always was a blessing to the people.

Furthermore, you can't love and not give. You may give without loving, but there is no way you will love and not give: your time, energy, and resources. Giving is living. God showed what it means to love by giving His only Son and there is nothing else He won't give you. Therefore, learn to give your best and all to your spouse.

In conclusion, do you desire to have a lasting love in marriage, then first know God (who is Love) and obey His instructions, choose to please your spouse, putting him or her first before you and make giving a lifestyle in your relationship and you will be building a lasting love in your relationship.

Ngozi Nwoke is a teacher, speaker, counselor and author of "Peace Money Can't Buy" and "The Man Jesus: What You Need to Know About Christ". She has a passion to teach people how to enjoy peace, God's love and christian living for more fulfilling life. Want more fulfilling life? Subscribe for free email updates today.

It's Nearly Wedding Season... What Should You Wear?

By Carin G Hansen 

With the beginning of wedding season just weeks away I thought this was a good time to give some tips and advice to help you put together some killer outfits for these joyous celebrations. As is always the case with fashion, age is a factor when deciding what to wear... but, you may be surprised how far down on the list that consideration is.

FIRST CONSIDERATION: Dress code or No Dress Code.

There are six dress codes a couple might choose to have for their wedding guests. To understand each of these I am using information found on invitations by dawn's website.

Dress Codes - What to Wear

1. Casual - casual dress suited to the season

2. Cocktail Attire/Semi-formal/Dressy Casual - Cocktail Dress

3. Themed Attire - Determined by the couple (See #5 Vintage below)

4. Formal Attire/Black Tie Optional - floor length dress or evening pant suit

5. Black Tie - formal gown

6. White Tie - full length ballroom gown

If there is a dress code that will narrow down your options, but there is still room for a lot of imagination! If there is no dress code, you can move on to the next consideration.

SECOND CONSIDERATION: Wedding Theme or Style

There are many themes/styles but I will mention the eight most common. Understanding the theme/style can help you decide what to wear if the invitation does not have a dress code.

Theme/Style (ranked most formal to most casual) - Suggestions of What to Wear

1. Classic or Traditional - Cocktail Dress to Full Length Gown

2. Contemporary or Elegant - Cocktail Dress or Wide-Leg Jumpsuit

3. Romantic or Backyard/Vineyard - Cocktail Dress or Wide-Leg Jumpsuit

4. Industrial Inspired - Any of the Above

5. Vintage - Based on the era the couple chooses

6. Rustic or Country - Sundresses, Full-Length Casual Dresses or Jeans and a Lacy Blouse

7. Beach - Sundresses, Full-Length Casual Dresses, Swimsuit w/Sarong

Your possibilities are endless - use these suggestions to get your creative juices flowing.


A general rule of thumb is that the attire gets a little more formal as the day progresses into evening.

Now you are able to narrow it down even more and begin actually thinking about the details of the garments along with starting to put together ideas for the accessories.

FOURTH CONSIDERATION: Adjusting for Inclement Weather

Whatever outfit you choose to wear be sure to have a secondary choice ready should the weather turn foul, or have a throw or shawl... even a stylish umbrella to help you weather the weather!

FIFTH CONSIDERATION: What are the Wedding Color(s)

If you know the colors the couple have chosen for their wedding you might choose to wear something that pairs well with those. Generally, you don't want to exactly match the colors if you are not part of the wedding party. However, something a few shades lighter or darker than one of the colors or a simple pattern that has one or more of the colors in it are both good choices.


This one is a bit tricky, because although you want to look your best, you must never upstage the bride or the bridesmaids. This is the bride's day to shine and her bridesmaids with her, so consider what looks best on you and then modify it some. That could mean that instead of wearing a dress that is both form-fitting and very short with high heels, you choose either a form-fitting just above the knee-length dress and any heel OR a bit looser fitting dress that is short with killer high heels. Another example would be instead of wearing a low-cut, shoulders-out jumpsuit you could wear a bit higher neckline with the back cut low. The modifications are endless...

DON'T skip this consideration. It will keep you from being the one everyone is gossiping about behind your back at the wedding and for weeks after.


This is not a good thing for my younger readers and a bad thing for the older ones. Again, it is about modifications. You want to look stylish while being age appropriate. Those of you who are younger have more options, although I would admonish ALL of you, no matter your age, to study yourself closely in a three-way mirror standing, sitting, walking and leaning over! The word modest means to show grace to the observer and that should be your goal when attending a wedding. You do not want to be a distraction to any other guests or anyone in the wedding party. Those of us who are older need to spend even more time thinking about and studying what we look like in an outfit... no matter how stunning it may be on the hanger or mannequin. As we age we can lose sight (or sometimes choose to lose sight) of what our clothing looks like on us from different angles and in different body positions. Show no mercy to any outfit that does not look its best at every angle and in every body position. Don't wear something that you will regret later. Always err on the side of more classic pieces.

A Good Rule of Thumb for those of us who are old enough to be the couples parents:

Pair classic pieces with one or two trendy pieces


Accessories are what make garments/pieces of clothing into outfits. Never underestimate the power of accessories. Here are some things to help you make great choices.

1. Weddings are not the best place to wear oversized jewelry nor brightly colored jewelry.

a. Choose earrings, bracelets and necklaces that are more moderate in size

b. Pieces that are mostly metal with bits of color and bling are best

2. Make either your jewelry or your shoes/purse/belts/outer-wear the main focus... not all the above.

3. Choose shoes that can comfortable for hours of standing and dancing OR bring along another comfy pair for dancing that compliments your outfit and are in great shape.

My husband and I have two weddings to attend this summer. One is a rustic wedding and the other traditional, so I get to choose two very different outfits in different colors with different accessories... some of which I already have in my closet and some I will need to purchase. I am already putting together ideas for what I will wear both of those days based on everything I have written here.

So, I will leave you now to your own creative juices. ENJOY!

Carin Hansen has been helping women, of all ages, look their best through articles, blogs, books, seminars and workshops for much of her life. Her natural talent for combining color, clothing styles and body types enables her to create a personal fashion signature for each client. Carin is also an actress, model and small business owner who is a passionate advocate for those journeying through cancer. As a cancer survivor for nearly 25 years, Carin is very aware that every day on earth is a gift from God - not to be wasted. In Carin's book titled "A Woman's Cancer Journey Primer" she shares her cancer story along with advice on how to manage many of the health and beauty challenges women face on their cancer journeys. Please visit Carin's website to book her for a coaching session or a speaking engagement. Also check out her blog at <> for spiritual insight on the challenges of life.

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Wedding Stamps


Most people know the Silver Wedding Anniversary is the 25th Anniversary, and the 50th is considered the Golden Anniversary. How many are aware the 40th is Ruby, or the 45th is Emerald?

Well let N.E. Informer help you with your anniversary questions.  Whether you wish to give the traditional gifts given through the ages or stay in the loop with what the modern gift lists consist of N.E. Informer has it here.  

Anniversary Gift

1st  Paper
2nd  Cotton
3rd  Leather
4th  Fruit, flowers
5th  Wood
6th  Sugar
7th  Copper, wool
8th  Bronze, pottery
9th  Pottery, willow
10th  Tin
11th  Steel
12th  Silk, linen
13th  Lace
14th  Ivory
15th  Crystal
20th  China
25th  Silver
30th  Pearl
35th  Coral
40th  Ruby
45th  Sapphire
50th  Gold
55th  Emerald
60th  Diamond




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