“Our Souls Are Mirrors” by Rupi Kaur

god must have kneaded you and i
from the same dough
rolled us out as one on the baking sheet
must have suddenly realized
how unfair it was
to put that much magic in one person
and sadly split that dough in two
how else is it that
when i look in the mirror
i am looking at you
when you breathe
my own lungs fill with air
that we just met but we
have known each other our whole lives
if we were not made as one to begin with

The Wedding Dates to Avoid in 2019 and 2020

By Kim Forrest

Check out our list of dates in 2019 and 2020 that you MIGHT want to avoid for your own wedding day.

Many couples choose to avoid holding their weddings on holidays, because of concern that guests won’t be able to attend due to longstanding travel plans or family events. Holiday weekends can also be more expensive for you, because vendors may be extra busy with other non-wedding events (think florists on Mother’s Day or caterers on Thanksgiving), as well as for your guests, who might have trouble booking affordable accommodations and flights. You also may want to steer clear of major sporting events or other big national or local events – and traditionally “unlucky” days, like Friday the 13th. But really, your wedding date is your choice—if you don’t think hosting your wedding on a particular holiday will affect the planning too much (and there aren’t any religious exclusions), then go for it!

Check out our list of wedding dates to (potentially) avoid in 2018 and 2019.

New Year’s Day: Tuesday, January 1, 2019; Wednesday, January 1, 2020

Martin Luther King Jr. Day: Monday, January 21, 2019; Monday, January 20, 2020

Super Bowl Sunday: Sunday, February 3, 2019 (especially in Atlanta, Ga.); Sunday, February 2, 2020 (especially in Miami, Fla.)

Valentine’s Day: Thursday, February 14, 2019; Friday, February 14, 2020

Presidents’ Day: Monday, February 18, 2019; Monday, February 17, 2020

Academy Awards: Sunday, February 24, 2019; Sunday, February 9, 2020 (especially in Los Angeles)

April Fool’s Day: Monday, April 1, 2019; Wednesday, April 1, 2020

Final Four: Saturday, April 6 and Monday, April 8, 2019 (especially in Minneapolis, Minn.); Saturday, April 4 and Monday April 6, 2020 (especially in Atlanta, Ga.)

Palm Sunday: Sunday April 14, 2019; Sunday, April 5, 2020

Passover: Friday, April 19 through Saturday, April 27, 2019; Wednesday, April 8 through Thursday, April 16, 2020

Easter: Sunday, April 21, 2019; Sunday, April 12, 2020

Mother’s Day: Sunday, May 12, 2019; Sunday, May 10, 2020

Memorial Day: Monday, May 27, 2019; Monday, May 25, 2020

Friday the 13th: Friday, September 13, 2019; Friday, December 13, 2019; Friday, March 13, 2020; Friday, November 13, 2020

Father’s Day: Sunday, June 16, 2019; Sunday, June 21, 2020

Fourth of July: Thursday, July 4, 2019; Saturday, July 4, 2020

Labor Day: Monday, September 2, 2019; Monday, September 7, 2020

Rosh Hashanah: Sunday, September 29 through Tuesday, October 1, 2019; Friday September 18 through Sunday, September 20, 2020

Yom Kippur: Tuesday, October 8 through Wednesday, October 9, 2019; Sunday, September 27 through Monday, September 28, 2020

Columbus Day: Monday, October 14, 2019; Monday, October 12, 2020

Halloween: Thursday, October 31, 2019; Saturday, October 31, 2020

Veterans Day: Monday, November 11, 2019; Wednesday, November 11, 2020

Thanksgiving: Thursday, November 28, 2019; Thursday, November 26, 2020

Christmas:  Wednesday, December 25, 2019; Friday, December 25, 2020

Kwanzaa: Thursday, December 26, 2019 through Wednesday, January 1, 2020; Saturday, December 26, 2020 through Friday, January 1, 2021

New Year’s Eve: Tuesday, December 31, 2019; Thursday, December 31, 2020


Why Doesn't My Separated Husband Want To Come Home?

 By Leslie Cane 

I sometimes hear from separated wives who want nothing more than for their husband to come home. I understand this thinking because it is what I felt when I was separated. I used to ask myself how many more days or weeks that I could tolerate. I would tell myself that I could probably only tolerate a few more days. But guess what? Unfortunately, it wasn't my choice as to how much I could take. I had to tolerate many more days - quite a few more days than I ever anticipated. But I actually survived and eventually, my marriage did too.

However, during my separation, I always wondered just what I could do to get my husband home. And I know that I'm not alone. I hear from wives who say things like, "my husband has been living apart from me for almost two months. He's been unhappy with our marriage and he wanted time to see how he would feel living alone. Honestly, we haven't seen one another as much as I would like. He always puts me off. We talk because I call him. Last night, I asked him when he was going to come home. He replied that he didn't know. I asked him didn't he want to come home? His response was 'not right now.' I don't necessarily understand this. We haven't been fighting as badly as we were, so I don't get why he needs to continue to stay away."

I get how you feel. During my own separation, I didn't understand why my husband didn't want to rush home, because being apart felt so wrong to me. But clearly, he did not share my sentiments. For the longest time, I didn't understand why. After we reconciled and had some honest conversations, I started to figure out why men sometimes delay coming home. I will share these observations below.

It Could Be That Not Enough Has Changed. (At Least For Him.) Here is one major thing that I did not understand in the beginning stages of my own separation. My husband was actively looking for real and continuous change before he would even allow himself to be open to a reconciliation. I sort of just assumed that once things calmed down, he would get tired of living on his own and we would just sort of fall back into our marriage. Well, this was not going to be considered good enough for my husband. He wanted a greatly improved marriage. And in order to believe that this could be a reality, he wanted to see the concrete and continuous changes that were going to make this possible. He was watching and waiting for that. And, until he saw it, he was perfectly willing to continue on with the separation.

He's Waiting To See If Any Changes Are Real: Here is another thing that I didn't understand. Once I clued in that my husband expected changes, I started to work on those things - and so did he. However, in my anxious mind, I hoped that when he saw me making an effort, this would be enough. Unfortunately, it wasn't that simple. My husband only wanted to reconcile once. Therefore, he wanted to wait until he could be absolutely sure that the changes made were real and were lasting so that we could actually make those changes stick. At first, I hated this. I thought that he was needlessly delaying our reconciliation or that he didn't love me enough to just dive in.

However, now that enough time has passed and the pain of this is not so fresh, I realize that he was right. He moved back in very gradually. At first, he would only spend a night every now and again. Then he would spend weekends. This allowed us to gradually make adjustments as issues came up. Of course, I was impatient, but, at the same time, I was very afraid of my husband being distant and cold to me again if something went wrong. So I did not want to jinx anything. I had to work very hard to get my husband receptive to me again, so if I had to wait a little while longer to ensure that I wouldn't have to go through a separation again - or worse - a divorce, then I was willing to do it (although not always patiently.)

The good news with this is that some of this is within your control. You can attempt to make the changes that he is looking for (either by yourself or with self-help or/and a counselor) and you can watch and listen very closely for clues when you are on the right track. I learned to be very good at observation and listening. When something I changed didn't get a good response, I did less of that. When a change I made had a good response, I did more of that and introduced more behaviors like what I'd already had success with.

Yes, I always worried that he didn't want to come right away because he didn't want me or the marriage. I also sometimes worried that he had met someone else. Luckily, this turned out to not be the case for me. I know that it does happen sometimes. But, in many cases, the husband just doesn't want to move too quickly and he wants to make sure that real changes are in place that are going to give a reconciliation a better chance of working. You can read the whole story of my reconciliation at the

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Most people know the Silver Wedding Anniversary is the 25th Anniversary, and the 50th is considered the Golden Anniversary. How many are aware the 40th is Ruby, or the 45th is Emerald?

Well let N.E. Informer help you with your anniversary questions.  Whether you wish to give the traditional gifts given through the ages or stay in the loop with what the modern gift lists consist of N.E. Informer has it here.  

Anniversary Gift

1st  Paper
2nd  Cotton
3rd  Leather
4th  Fruit, flowers
5th  Wood
6th  Sugar
7th  Copper, wool
8th  Bronze, pottery
9th  Pottery, willow
10th  Tin
11th  Steel
12th  Silk, linen
13th  Lace
14th  Ivory
15th  Crystal
20th  China
25th  Silver
30th  Pearl
35th  Coral
40th  Ruby
45th  Sapphire
50th  Gold
55th  Emerald
60th  Diamond




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