Mother Said There'd Be Days Like This


Mothers are the greatest dispensers of advice since God said, "Let there be light." Some, not me, refer to it as maternal instinct.

My own mother gave me some splendid advice when I was growing up. Unfortunately, much of Mom's advice shed light on nothing. Absolutely nothing at all.

Let me outline some advice my mother gave me that, to this day, I have no idea what she was talking about.

I distinctly remember my mother standing before me, with hands on her hips, scolding me for something and then saying, "Who do you think you are?"

This always disturbed me and caused me to wonder about my nativity. As a young person, I often pondered this question myself.

As with most teens, I had long moments of identity crisis. (When you are young most of your energy goes into producing hormones, and so the brain functions on low voltage.) It greatly confused me that the person who should know who I was, asked me the question I had been asking myself. If she does not know who I am, what hope do I have?

Then there was the time I asked my mother for money. She whirled around and replied, "Do you think money grows on trees?"

Up to that point, I have never given the matter much thought. I simply assumed money came from my father going to work and being paid. However, here was something new to ponder. Where does money come from, really? What added to my confusion was the name of our bank The Elm Tree Branch of First National Bank of Harrisburg. Now I was totally confused.

When I was quite young, I remember asking my mother for something in the store. I think it was some small toy that I took a fancy to and asked my mother to buy it for me. She flatly refused. I complained and demanded to know why. She looked me straight in the eye and said, "Because I am the mother, that's why."

To this day, I still do not know what in the world that statement meant. What did her being a mother have to do with buying me that toy?

When she saw my confusion, she told me, "When you have children of your own, you will understand." I have children of my own as well as grandchildren, and I still do not know what she meant. It must be a mother thing, which is all I know.

Then there was the time I wanted to do something with some friends and my mother would not let me. "But everyone else is going," I protested in vain. That's when my mother gave me her spin on the situation at hand.

"What if EVERYONE jumped off a cliff? Would you do it, too?"

The thing that confused me was, nobody was going to jump off any cliff. In fact, nobody in his or her right mind would ever think of such a stupid thing. Nobody, that is, but my mother. I figured she must have gotten her sadistic side from her mother. It must be something mothers pass on to their daughters, because as a man, I don't get it.

Most memorable of her nuggets of wisdom to me is that piece of advice I still abide by. Before I would leave the house, my mother would say, "Make sure you have clean underwear on in case you get in a car accident and have to go to the hospital."

I have never figured out what clean underwear has to do with going to the hospital, but that piece of advice made for the worst day of my high school years. Just as I drove into the school parking lot one day it dawned on me that I had forgotten to put on clean underwear. Panic raced through my teenage heart like never before. I was certain some disaster awaited me around the next corridor.

By the end of the day, I was a nervous wreck. Driving home, I was sure something would happen to me, putting me in the hospital. I imagined myself being rushed into surgery and the first thing the medical team asked was, "Check his underwear to see if it's clean."

Upon finding my underwear not clean, they refused me any medical attention and sent me back to my mother. To this day, I am paranoid about wearing clean, fresh underwear each day. I have my mother to thank for that.

Looking back at what I learned after years of hearing my mother's advice, I have only one piece of wisdom to pass on to you for those moments with your mother. The next time your mom makes one of those parental off the wall statements, just smile and ask her, "When you were my age, did you walk to school or carry your lunch?"

She'll be confused, and you'll be even.

The one thing my mother did that I will always be grateful for is that she encouraged me to read my Bible. She bought my first Bible for me and encouraged me to read and study it each day.

In that Bible, as a young person, I ran across a verse of scripture that has stood me in times of trouble. "Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths" (Proverbs 3:5 6).

Thanks Mom and Happy Mother's Day.

Dr. James L. Snyder is pastor of the Family of God Fellowship, 1471 Pine Road, Ocala, FL 34472. He lives with his wife in Silver Springs Shores. Call him at 352-687-4240 or e-mail The church web site is .

Celebrating Mother's Day With Your Son


The greatest moments for a mother are when you see your children learning, developing and succeeding. After all, mother is someone who seeks the best in her children even when they drive her crazy. May every mother enjoy this occasion since this moment of happiness comes after lot of sacrifice, devotion and patience.

Kids of all ages plan different ways to celebrate and honour their Moms again this year on Mother's day. It is a pleasing and deeply personal holiday as each son lets his mom know and feel how very special she is.

This year why not make extra effort to ensure that Mother's Day will be special for both you and your son.

Remember, your son is an adult and has his life of his own, often filled with time restraints and responsibilities with his own children. He would not know specifically what would make you feel loved and respected on this particular day. So, allow him to surprise you of honoring you.

Make your son feel that he owes you something because he is grateful for what you have done for him. Do not martyrize yourself and expect them to fawn over you, you won't be disappointed. Holding back your demands will give him the opportunity to give to you his genuinely - out of the goodness of his heart, with sincere love and caring.

It is tough to be a perfect mom, but if you have supported and loved your son, respected and cared for your son then you deserve to celebrate the day. Being a Mom is the toughest job you will ever have. So pat yourself for doing a great job. It is a good day to renew, improve your relationships with your son and make them the best they can be. Make Mother's Day a great day of love and appreciation-not only for yourself but for others as well.

Pick up the phone and call your son. Thank him for giving you the opportunity for the life changing experience of being his mom. Let your son know how proud you are of what he has become, how much you value him and what a treasure he is to you.

Think of your own mother-or someone else who has been an inspiring parent. Share with your son their beautiful characteristics. He will admire your stories and the legacy she has handed down for you and the world.

Talk to your grandchildren and let them know how much they contribute to your life. Find ways to become a better grandma and more personally involved with them. If you are lucky enough to have your grandchildren with you, sit back and enjoy and count your blessings because so many mothers won't have that joy this year.

This is your day. Plan a great one with your son doing most of your favorite activities. If you miss that anticipated Mother's Day call from your son, you can call him back later. He will be happy knowing you have a rich, full life of your own.

Mothers love spending time together with their family and all the extra hugs, kisses and appreciation on Mother's Day.

Mother's Day presents to give yourself.

Getting To Know Your Mom


Someone, I can associate with since my inception, We had an interesting start of the journey - I can still recall how she lived each feeling during that time, she went through a roller coaster of emotions -anxiety, depression, joy and pain altogether. She didn't know me quite well but she nourished me and loved me selflessly, gave me her undivided attention, she would also spill all her secrets, she would cry and laugh. I couldn't respond much except kicking legs but I could listen and empathize - We were the best of friends and I consumed all her time!

Then I was born and I brought enormous pain to her, she struggled for hours until I was out, boy! Was that tough to come out?

She held me in her arms and cried, that was the first time I saw her face and fell in love with her. I was introduced to plethora of people, some warm and some not so warm, I mean there are all kinds there J She protected me from everyone and everything. She will attend to all my tantrums even at unearthly hour.

Moving on, I was growing fast and everything around me was changing, there was one thing, which was constant - her love and support, which kept me going and helped me when I would falter. She taught me life lessons by examples, and never imposed her beliefs on me instead encouraged me to establish my own set of principles and values - That's how she raised me.

We would eat, study and play together; she would sacrifice everything to make sure my life goes smooth. Then, I made few friends at school and would love to play with them. Studies took over me and I got completely engrossed with my curriculum. My friends and studies became themes of my life but she continued to provide enormous support.

I entered college and got a boyfriend; I have grown up admiring her relationship with my father, how she has played such a vital role in keeping the family together. I took a plunge to get married to my college sweetheart and guess who was by my side more joyous than I was - My Mother!

Now she is turning old and dyes her grey strands black and I am aware that she is not going to be around physically forever and it's going to be miserably painful. I sit back and think -

Have I expressed enough, that I am eternally grateful for what she has done for me,

Have I lived up to her expectations,

Have I offered my companionship to share her sorrows and joy,

Have I lifted her spirits when she was low

Have I been a good daughter to her

Have I made her laugh enough

Have I told her that I value our relationship the most

Have I mentioned that I stumbled umpteen times and only her thought helped me keep going

Have I indicated that she has been an inspiration to me

Have I told her that - I love her

So, I have decided to make her feel special every single day of my existence and Have you?

Happy Mother's Day J

Make Mother's Day Memorable


Mother, You are a Beginning

· Beginning of an untold story, written with the ink of Love.

· Beginning of the world, sculpted by nurturing and care.

· Beginning of the foundation, built on honesty, respect and kindness.

Mother, You are a companion

· Companion who accepts me absolutely

· Companion who calms my fears cogently

· Companion who forgives me promptly

Mother, You are a celebration

· Celebration of profound love, which I delight in endlessly

· Celebration of moral excellence, which I commend exclusively

· Celebration of vitality, which I marvel at especially

Mother, You are a conclusion

· Conclusion to my fears, when you taught me to take life head-on

· Conclusion to my insecurities, when you coached me to believe in the self

· Conclusion to my sorrows, when each time you smile at me you gave a warm hug to my soul.

Mother's Day has been celebrated by people for many years all over the world. Mother's Day in India is around the corner. To be precise, Mother's Day date is Sunday 14 May. So make your Mom enjoy this year's Mother's Day in entirety by wishing her Happy Mother's Day along with a greeting card and a warm hug. You must consider to give a bouquet of flowers and a Gift. In case, you live in a different city or country, you can express your feelings for your mom by calling and greeting her over the phone and arranging to deliver a gift for her through online portals. Rest assured that your Mom would be proud of you. Your Mom might say that being loved forever by her children is all she could ask for herself on a Mother's Day.

The fact of the matter is that this is one day (Mother's Day) of the year to celebrate Mom and make your Mom feel very special. So, let us make sure that this year Mother's Day is an enjoyable and memorable occasion for Mom.

Surprise your Mother with some special activity based on her interest such as Outing and Trips or Fun at Home.

To make her feel Special on Mother's Day, you can take your Mom out for a nice family movie in the evening followed by a mother's day buffet dinner in a good restaurant in the city to celebrate Mother's Day. Ensure that the restaurant in consideration serves food of her choice. After all, it is Her day and she must be happy all the way throughout the day. Being Mother's Day, it is possible that the restaurant you intend to go to might not be in a position to accept you due to bookings made in advance by others celebrating mother's day too. View this, ensure that you make reservations in advance to avoid disappointments. I am sure that you do not want to experience unpleasant incidents during the day.

· A picnic with family members might be just Mom needs.

· Drive down to a unique destination of your Mother's choice. Or go to a place where your father first met your mother and both agreed to marry.

· Stay at home and play games whole day and thus enjoy active and challenging pursuits on Mother's Day. It would be great fun.

Mom is one human being who never says 'No' for anything to her children and is gifted with such a lot of patience when it comes to dealing with her kids. As mother, she is naturally protective of her children. She does her best to ensure that her children remain healthy, happy and progress in their respective life. When your mother says that you get all your best traits from her, she means that you have the same charming smile and the same brilliant mind as she has. Quite true that children grow up with traits quite similar to their own mother.

A father may turn his back on his child, husbands may desert their wives and wives their husbands and brothers and sisters may become enemies. But Mother's love for her children never dies. Mothers are so great. God has given mothers so much patience that mothers can withstand difficult moments without a flinch. Mothers never complain.

Mother has been the greatest teacher, a teacher of compassion, love and fearlessness. If love is sweet as a flower, then mother is that sweet flower for love. In the hindsight, we must accept that today whatever we are we have inherited from our beloved mother.

Mom is not just a word, it means more than one could ever express in words. A Mom is the dearest friend, caring mother, supportive, loving, amazing and a gem that is so precious, which money can never buy.

Mother has deferred many of her needs and desires in favour of the needs of her children. As a consequence of this sacrifice, she has inculcated sense of character and culture into her children.

We can never compensate for the unconditional love and support of our mother, but all we can do is reciprocate our undying love by giving something as unique as she is.

Look through our huge variety of special gifts just for your mother on her special day.

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