Health and Beauty Books 2019


Self-Worth: Can Someone Be Made To Feel Worthless?

By Oliver JR Cooper 

If one is in a relationship that is abusive, they can find that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. So, through spending so much time around someone who undermines them, the good feelings that they had will have just about disappeared.

Before this took place, they may have often experienced positive feelings and believed that they deserved to be treated well. Ergo, instead of being in a relationship that allows them to grow and develop; it will be a relationship that is destroying them.

Another Example

Alternatively, one could work somewhere where someone treats them badly; causing them to feel as though they have no value. It is then not going to matter how they are treated in other areas of their life, as this part of their life will have worn them down.

One could then be treated well by their partner and/or friends, yet this won't be enough to change how they feel about themselves. The environment where they spend a number of hours during the week will have the biggest impact on them.

One More

Then again, one could find that they feel worthless when they spend time around a certain family member. Due to how this person treats them, it won't be possible for them to feel good about themselves.

Someone who should have a positive effect on them is then going to be someone who weakens them. After they have spent time with this person, it could take them a while to re-experience positive feelings.

Moving Forward

If one finds that they feel worthless when they are around a family member, it might be a good idea to limit the amount of time that they spend around them. They might even need to go one step further and to remove them from their life.

If they work somewhere that is having a negative effect on their wellbeing, it will be essential for them to speak to someone who is higher up the ladder about what is going on. Another option would be for them to find somewhere else to work.

Drawing the Line

When it comes to being in an abusive relationship, they may have already made it clear to their partner that their behavior is not acceptable. If this is so, the only option that they will have will be to walk away.

This might not be easy, but it will be vital for them to focus on how much worse their life will get if they stay where they are. Through embracing how painful this would be, it might give them the fuel they need to get away.

Time to Rebuild

Once one no longer spends time around someone who makes them feel worthless, it will give them the chance to gradually build themselves up again. This can take place by spending time around people who love and support them and by focusing on their positive traits.

Taking care of their needs and making sure they don't neglect themselves will also be a way for them to tell themselves that they are valuable. If they have hit rock bottom it will take them a while to rise up again, but they will need to continually tell themselves that they are worth it.

It's Clear

Taking all this into account, it is obvious that other people have the power to make someone feel worthless. Irrespective of how someone feels about themselves, then, if they are around at least one person who treats them badly, they can end up feeling worthless.

However, although it may seem as though this is the case, it overlooks the fact that it is not this black and white. What this doesn't take into consideration is that someone can already feel worthless at a deeper level.

Two Levels

Through already feeling worthless deep down, it will be normal for them to tolerate how someone like this treats them. The reason why one won't realize that they already felt this way to begin with can be because they had developed a false-self that allowed them to feel good about themselves.

Underneath this will be how they actually feel about themselves, and this will be the complete opposite of how they feel on the surface. Still, their conscious mind can deny this and make out they don't want to feel worthless.

An Identity

At a deeper level, then, they are going to be emotionally attached to feeling worthless, and this will be why they are willing to put up with being treated badly. If they were not attached to feeling this way, they may have done something as soon as another person started to treat them badly.

But as feeling this way is what felt comfortable deep down, there was no reason for them to do anything. Their conscious mind will have resisted what took place but their unconscious mind will have been happy to put up with it.

Way Back

What this can show is that they were made to feel worthless during their early years, and this would have been a time when they wouldn't have been able to do anything about it. At this stage of their life they would have been egocentric and defenceless, meaning that they would have taken everything personally and everything would have gone in.

Therefore, being treated badly meant that they were bad, not that their caregiver/s were not in a good way. After being treated in this way for many years, feeling worthless would have become familiar and gradually become part of their identity - who they were.


When one is no longer emotionally attached to feeling worthless, there will be no reason for them to put up with anyone who treats them badly. It won't interest them and as this feeling is not within them to begin with, they will be less likely to attract people like this.

If one can relate to this, and they want to heal their inner wounds, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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Reduce Your Stress by Knowing Your Personal Stress Profile

By Paula Eder 

Stress. It's insidious and debilitating. It eats at your peace of mind, robbing you of sleep, adding pounds and wrinkles, and poisoning your moments.

But you know there's another way to live. Not only that, but your potential to grow more openhearted and at ease shines inside of you right now.

The key to your potential lies in becoming an expert on what triggers your stress. As you begin to see where your stress starts, you empower yourself - and that's a stress reducer in and of itself.

By simply taking the quiz below, you start to develop an overview. Then, by taking action to address your stress, you send yourself a powerful message.

You care!

It's a recipe for stress success. You're learning in advance when to expect stress. You're exploring ways to siphon stress out of your day. You ease up a little. You free yourself in small steps.

So let's get started with a quick quiz...

What's Your Stress Profile?

With this quiz, you discover your unique stress profile. Select as many answers per question as apply.

1. You feel stress in your body through:

a. Tension in your back, shoulders and jaw.

b. Sleeplessness.

c. Cravings or loss of appetite.

d. Inability to concentrate.

e. Irritability.

f. Other: ______________________________________________

2. The following situations trigger a stress response:

a. Deadlines.

b. Others' demands on your time.

c. Concerns about friends or family members.

d. Chronic pain.

e. No down time.

f. Other: ______________________________________________

3. List three times of day when you generally feel stressed.




4. How does your relationship to stress affect your time choices?

a. Chronically rushing.

b. Procrastinating.

c. Spending excessive time online or watching TV.

d. Getting to bed too late.

e. Making mistakes.

f. Other: ______________________________________________

5. Powerful antidotes to stress for you are:

a. Setting boundaries.

b. Simplifying your life.

c. Letting go of attempts to control others.

d. Physical exercise.

e. Completing your projects on schedule.

f. Other: ______________________________________________

6. With self-loyalty and compassion, take a careful look at how your Personal Stress Profile colors your outlook on life. Write a few words to describe what you see: _____________________________________________



7. Validate yourself for having taken this time to thoughtfully look at your stress level and think about ways to reduce it. And keep this quiz nearby for reference. It will prove invaluable as you work to change your life for the better.

Key: YOU create stress. YOU release stress.

You can reduce your stress level by changing your time choices, one minute at a time. Regardless of your work situation, your financial pressures, or the needs and demands of friends and family, you possess infinite power to generate more inner harmony and flow.

You'll find expert guidance quickly with our free Finding Time Success Kit, so check out our video at and then sign up for your Kit!

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Offered by Paula Eder, Ph.D. The Time Finder Expert




Why Once in a While Everyone Needs a Spa

By Shalini Madhav 

Everyone needs a little break from their busy life, don't they? And what else will be a great idea to pamper yourself by giving a spa treat for your body. Every salon provides the variety of spa-treatments according to your requirement. Most people visit spa centers just to de-stress themselves and rest. These centers provide various treatments to cure back-pain, joint-pain, insomnia, muscle-strains, headaches, etc.

Go through your requirements and communicate same to your therapist, as you're paying them a good amount it's your right to avail all the services for enriching your experience. Talk to your therapist and seek all the advice and choose the right treatment as per your need.


1) Aromatherapy- In this therapy the magic is done with essential oils. Oils used in massages, body wraps, etc helps in relaxing your muscles and adding glow and nourishment to your skin.

2) Shiatsu- It is one of the popular techniques of de-stressing the body; here experts use their hands to locate the troubled point on their client's body and helps in de-strangling them.

3) Ayurveda- It is the oldest medical technique of relaxing the body by using natural remedies instead of artificial products. Different types of herbs, stems, soils, are used in massages.

4) Salt Scrubs-The main aim of this therapy is to remove all the dead cells and deep cleansing of the skin. The process of exfoliation includes rubbing salts all through the skin or other scrubs like walnut or almond scrub, especially where the blackheads are found in abundance.

5) Facials- Facials are an important element in keeping our skin clean and glowing. A variety of facial packs are available like gold facial, diamond, facial, fruit facials, etc. It helps in rejuvenating our face-skin, which is exposed to pollutants every day.

6) Body wraps- Body wraps consist mainly of natural remedies such as clay, mud that enriches our body with nutrients and maintain its moisture.


In spa centers, the services are provided by the best and experienced therapists and beauticians. The main goal is customer satisfaction by providing the best services according to the customer requirements. The spa centers ensure to provide an ambience where you can calm your mind and spend some time in peace and get back to your regular life with a happy mood and a healthy body. The spa centers use the highest quality of products and types of equipment in their spa therapy and never ignore the demands and preferences of their customers.


On various occasions like Christmas, Easter, Halloween spa centers offer discounts or other free services to their customers. Setting a spa appointment as a gift for your family or friend is another way of showing your love or setting a mud-date with your spouse to spend some quality time is becoming a new trend. Believe it or not, but everybody needs a break from their busy schedule and why not take off a day and give a well deserving treat to your body.

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What's In A Facial?

By Amanda J Hales 

Facials are something you can use to indulge yourself with and they are also great ways to keep your skin feeling and looking its best. Of course with so many different skin types out there, not all facials will be wonderful for everyone, that's why having so much choice is a great thing.

Got acne? Then you'll want an acne reduction facial, something that will deep clean the pores and get rid of oils and reduce the look of those pesky blemishes. There is mild scrubbing and steaming to gently release the dirt in this sort of facial, but it'll make your skin look shiny and new at the end.

Looking to shine? What about a gold facial? This is actual gold mixed with a cream and is great for those with dull skin as it removed dirt and impurities and plumps the skin leaving it looking great.

A paraffin facial is a popular one as it softens the skin and leaves you with a clear complexion. It's great for oily or dry skin and the paraffin wax is warm and soft against your skin. Once it's whisked away, all the bad stuff goes with it. Viola!

Fruit facials are a great idea, but not for those with sensitive skin. For the rest of us, it removes blackheads, promotes the beautiful glow and lightens the skin. Best of all it's fruit and fruit is full of antioxidants and lots of other good stuff.

An aromatherapy facial is great for anyone looking to relax. The aromatherapy oil is put right on your skin to decrease the fine lines and signs of aging all while putting you in a great mood.

We know collagen is great for the skin, so it is no surprise that a collagen facial is a great thing. It's a great choice for those with saggy, loose or dull skin as collagen is a protein that rejuvenates the skin and makes it look full and glowing. Part of this type of facial is steam and massage too, which makes for part of a great pampering day out.

Facials are a great thing to try at home or at the spa. Go with friends or make a you day out of it, but it's something that replenishes not only your face but also your spirit. No matter which you choose you will be pampered, happy and glowing when you are done.

Vibe Spa is located in the heart of Mississauga and offers a relaxing retreat with a suite of day spa services including facials, massages, manicures, pedicures and so much more. To book an appointment or to find out more please visit today!

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