Birth Announcement

WAKE UP MY PEOPLE

Wake up my people,
why slumber in sleep?
Get up it's a new dawn,
stand up on your feet.
Take a step forward,
to a better life, ahead.
Wake up my people,
don't be afraid.

Wake up my people,
don't live in the past.
Never, doubt your ability to
go forward in this land.

Wake up my people...

There is a better life awaiting...
so, take each other's hand.
Let's march on to victory singing,
"Freedom at last, Freedom at last."

WAKE UP MY PEOPLE!

Written by: Valerie Link-Foxx
Poets on the Horizon
A Collection of Poetry
by members of the Dudley Branch Library Poetry Club
Copyright c-1988

UNIQUE WEDDING PROPOSALS

July 2008 Horoscopes

Cancer - Relationships, Partnerships

The month begins with relationships and partnerships as your main area of interest.  Personal or professional relationships as well as business partnerships must be examined carefully.

Love

This transit brings new romantic opportunities that may have a secretive side. Almost simultaneously, and will stay for quite some time.  Your romantic and sexual life will heat up and you will be definitely focused on your love life.

Education, Travel

Long-distance travel, higher education and expanding your worldview are favorable at this time. Unexpected events may take place in these areas of your life. You may meet interesting and unusual people.

You may decide to continue your education or to take professional development classes.

Business

Signing contracts is to be avoided this month. If you have to sign contracts, make sure you read the fine print and be prepared to renegotiate details soon.

A Birthday Poem
Birthday Happiness

As we observe your birthday now,
Your cake and gifts don't matter much.
These common things aren't really you,
Ribbons, paper hats and such.

We celebrate a person who
Brings happiness to everyone,
Someone who gives more than she gets,
And fills our lives with joy and fun.

So Happy Birthday, and many more!
We hope you make it to a hundred and two,
Because we cannot even dream
What life would be like without you.

By Joanna Fuchs

Ask Leigh

Advice Columnist: New York, N.Y

July 2008

Dear Leigh

I really believe in sisterhood but I find that no matter how hard I try I have several women in my group that always seem to attack me, make my group meeting painful and leave me feeling women are untrustworthy and unloyal. 

I keep hoping they will change but month after month they do not change. 

How do I understand the difference between sisterhood and jealousy?

Shawn, Oregon

Dear Shawn:

I do not want to tell you these women are jealous of you because I am not there to see the reaction between you and them.  I will tell you however, if you are that unhappy with their relationship you need to let it go.  Misery loves company and these women could be insecure, unhappy and dissatisfied in their own selves and they take it out on you. 

When you are a confident, secure and happy person you stand out and are always open for the attack.  Don’t accept what is being given to you but fighting back is not going to work.  Get away from these women, continue to remain happy with yourself, enjoy your life and you will see they will set their devil attitudes on some other victim.

Are you the other woman in an affair?

July 2008

If you find yourself in this precarious position, you have a lot to think about.

It’s not an easy position to be in. Most likely, you didn’t plan on it, and weren’t thrilled that it happened. It has, though, and even though you may feel you’ve made a mistake, it’s not that easy to correct. If you are finding yourself confused, upset, or feeling horrible about your relationship, you need to ask yourself some questions.

Before you can decide what to do, you need to take a good, long look at yourself and figure out how you got yourself into this situation. Remember to be honest with yourself– there is no point in lying to yourself, somewhere down inside you know the truth, anyway.

Is this really about him? Do you feel this man is your soul mate? Do you have a healthy respect for each other, communicate well, and feel that you cannot live without each other? If you had your pick of any man in the whole world, would you still pick him? If you ended it today, do you feel you would get over him and your life could go on? If so, then why are you putting yourself in this position?

Perhaps this is about you? Have you suffered from low self esteem and been taken in by the attention he gave you? Do get an ego boost feeling that you can take him away from someone? Do you frequently find yourself in impossible relationships, perhaps indicating a fear of commitment or true one-on-one intimacy? If that is the case, then this relationship is not going to help you move on.

Just as important as your motives are his motives. Perhaps he does love you. Perhaps he is a good person who was unhappy and found himself in a situation where emotions got the best of him when he met his true love. If that is the case, expect him to do something about it. Give him a time limit, and stick to it.

 If he claims an unhappy marriage, it’s just not enough of an excuse. If he is so unhappy that he felt like looking for another lover, why didn’t he just settle things with his wife first? Don’t allow him to treat you like a consolation prize, or a side hobby to help him get through his rough days. If he says there are complicating issues, such as children, family, financial problems, etc, then is he really in a position to become involved with someone else?

If he isn’t making any real efforts towards resolving his marriage to be with you, then he is not giving the respect you deserve and obviously not able or willing to fulfill all of your needs. If that’s the case, no matter how much it might hurt, the reality is you’d be better off finding someone who is willing and able.

Another thing to consider is, has he done this before? If having affairs is a hobby for him, no matter how you feel about him, you need to consider if you really want to get mixed up with him. After all, even if he leaves her and comes to you, are you sure he won’t continue with his extra-curricular activities behind your back? Do you really feel you could trust him? If not, does your relationship have much hope, even after his wife is out of the picture.

Don’t ever let feelings overrule your self respect and common sense. Thankfully, love is not as rare a thing as the movies and romance novels make it out to be. As humans, it is not that hard at all to love someone in our lives when we have a connection. The hard part is finding relationships where mutual respect, dignity, courtesy, honesty, cooperation, trust and courtesy are companions to love. Without these, love is not enough. If you both feel you have these, then expect him to do something about it, soon. If you don’t feel you have these, or if he hesitates to give them to you, then find the courage and strength within yourself to end the relationship and find them elsewhere. After all, you deserve them