Horoscope, Zodiac And Astrology Books For 2018
Feeling Hopeless Can Be A Good Thing
By Oliver JR Cooper
If someone feels hopeless, it can cause them to feel down and as though they have no control. And, unless something changes, they could end up feeling even worse - sinking even further down into themselves.
It can then seem as though there is no way out, and they may come to believe that the only option they have is to end their own life. This could be how they have felt for a number of months or years, or maybe they have felt this way for as long as they can remember.
A Painful Existence
Clearly, it will be incredibly difficult for this person to handle life, and this is why there is going to be nothing good about experiencing life in this way. The ideal will be for them to reach out for the right support, which can be supplied with a therapist or a healer, for instance.
If they do this and are able to come out the other side, so to speak, they will have something incredibly valuable to offer the world. They will know what it is like to be at rock bottom and this will allow them to not only understand others in the same position, but to assist them - if they so choose.
However, although it is possible for someone to feel completely hopeless about everything, they can also feel this way when it comes to one area of their life. For example, a relationship might not be going as they would like it to or they could feel stuck when it comes to their career.
Through feeling this way, they may come to the conclusion that they need to stay positive and to do what they can to improve their relationship or to move forward in their career. There will then be no reason for them to pay attention to how they feel; it will just be seen as something that they need to rise above.
It might only end up being a matter of time before they are able to change their circumstances, meaning that they will have done the right thing. Then again, it might not be long until they end up feeling the same way again.
What this can then show is that the reason they feel hopeless is not because they have 'faulty thinking' or that they are not doing enough, it can be a sign that they are with the wrong person or are doing the wrong thing. Therefore, if they keep trying to change what is happening and don't take a step back to reflect on what is going on, they will continue to suffer.
The Wrong Direction
How they feel is there to notify them that they are on the wrong track or that they need to try a different approach. So, if they use their willpower to keep going, they will be wasting their time and energy.
What can make it hard for them to sit back, and not to do anything, can be the conditioning what they have received. A lot of self-development material, for instance, is all about taking action (the masculine aspect) and this means that the importance of being (the feminine aspect) is often overlooked.
I think that what this shows is that while it is important to take action, it is also important to be able to take a step back, to just be and to trust and let go. If someone is used to trying to do everything through force, it can take a while for them to get used to this.
Teacher, Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand eight hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
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Do You Tolerate Others' Uncaring and Disrespectful Behavior?
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
I grew up with two parents who constantly lacked caring for my feelings and frequently treated me with deep disrespect. Looking back, I know that neither of them had any idea of how to compassionately manage their own feelings, so they were completely incapable of being compassionate with mine. In fact, they seemed to lack the ability to feel and show compassion. For a highly sensitive child, this was very painful.
Their lack of respect for me showed up in many ways: Projecting their feelings on to me, blaming me rather than taking responsibility for themselves, not ever seeing me or getting me, frequently judging me and yelling at me, discounting things that were important to me, and my father attempting to act out his sexual addiction on me. As many of you know from your own experiences, one gets used to being treated this way. Like most of you, I grew up thinking there was something wrong with me, and I learned to be a very good girl, always trying to please and do everything right.
"That's Just The Way He Is."
Of course, when my husband started to treat me the same way my parents had, I accepted it. I didn't even know that I had a choice not to accept it. I made excuses for him, telling myself, "That's just the way he is," and continued to be a caretaker for everyone in my family.
With the role modeling of my parents and husband regarding treating me with a lack of caring and disrespect, and because it never even occurred to me to speak up for myself, two of my three children learned to treat me the same way. Again, I made excuses, telling myself, "That's just the way they are." By tolerating it, I was deeply disrespecting myself and not caring about myself, and training them to continue to treat me in this uncaring and disrespectful way. As I look back, it's amazing to me to see how unconscious I was about all of this. I truly thought I was being loving in tolerating this behavior in my family.
Then Came Inner Work...
What an eye-opener this was for me! I mostly stopped caretaking, which angered everyone in my family. But even though I was no longer caretaking, I still didn't understand the deeper dynamics of the projection, lack of caring and disrespect that I had lived with for so long. It took me many more years of practicing Inner Work before I tuned into this deeper level of self-abandonment.
How often, when someone is disrespectful or uncaring have you said, "Oh, no big deal - it's just the way they are." While it's great to not take others' uncaring behavior personally, that's not enough for your inner child to feel loved by you.
Tolerating Uncaring and Disrespectful Behavior Isn't Loving
The more I've learned to see, value and cherish my inner child - my true soul essence, my unique expression of the Divine - the more intolerant I've become of others' uncaring and disrespectful behavior toward me and toward others. I now know that making excuses for others' unloving behavior is unloving to both me and them.
Your inner child will feel very important to you and loved by you when you have the courage to stand solid in not accepting uncaring and disrespectful behavior toward you. This means having the courage to risk losing others rather than compromising your integrity by accepting and making excuses for their unloving behavior. My inner child is deeply grateful that I no longer tolerate anyone's disrespectful or uncaring behavior toward me.
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What Do Guys Want to Know From Your Dating Profile?
By Zameer Havaldar
Online dating websites and apps have changed the way the new gen meets new people. There are tons of dating profiles to choose from, you must up your game and be careful about how you portray yourself on the best online dating apps.
You need to have a careful look at your online dating profile. Sculpt your profile like your own painting. Put out your personality, the real you and what are you looking for; Your profile is the window to your chances of scoring the man of your dreams on an online dating profile.
What most men want to know from a woman's online dating profile?
Photographs and profile decoration is now also being provided as a service by professionals. Online dating profile writing is a legit service where professionals analyze your goal and optimize your profile to attract the right kind of traction.
There are different qualities in an online profile that guys look for. Here's a breakdown of what matters most to men.
Photos are the first thing men look at on an online dating profile. Do not use filters, keep your face visible, don't add group photos, not even duets! Show your positive side. A snap into your personality -while cycling or just outside with your dog.
Self Summary about your life -work, education, interests -what are you into, etc. Attributes that help us picture you better. Men weigh our likings and decide to message you or skip your profile!
Men are looking for healthy women
Believe it or not, women with the word CrossFit in their profiles are 39% more likely to get messaged than the average girl. Just showing that you take care of your body, and you'll probably end up meeting a guy who also puts a lot of effort into staying healthy and fit himself.
Men are looking for honest women
If we go on a date with a woman that we met online, and it starts like this... wait a minute, how old are you again? Umm, 29. Then he probably won't be into you because you're lying and you have a beard.
Please, both men and women, be open and honest about your age, about what it is that you want, about your life, so that you do end up meeting the right match. Not for the short term, but in the long run because every single time you lie, you're setting yourself up for an absolute dating disaster.
Finding Common Ground
Your interests, movies, music, places you like, some things in common that we can connect with you, having more specific things will help us pick common things and talk about that.
Do you volunteer? a caring heart and a kind soul is attractive in itself.
Tell us what you enjoy doing so we can find some common ground, or you can tell us more about your talents! Mention your hometown, you never know if your dream guy is from the same town!
Guys love girls with a sense of humor, adventurous, nerdy, or a simple girl next door, we love the profile that we can feel compatible with and then approach.
Like watching Star wars or When Harry met Sally, put it out if you enjoy metal or pop, are you an outdoor person -display your likes & dislikes, interests, and thoughts!
Don't pretend you're something you're not or you'll attract the wrong men. It sounds shallow.
The trick to meeting men online and writing a good dating profile is to keep it simple. We want to see what you look like, we want to know you're fun to hang out with, and we want to know you're not going to mother us or break our balls. Most women I've seen lately try to sell themselves too much in their profiles.
Remember, guys will get to know you when you start to speak to them.
The profile is about giving us just enough to want to find out more about you. The simpler you keep it, the more man-friendly your online profile is.
The One Thing About Women Men Value More Than Good Looks
By Josh Manuel
There is a saying that a man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears...
... in other words, men are attracted to what they see - a nice physique and good looks.
Yes, men are attracted to looks... we see a good-looking woman and we feel an instant attraction to her beauty.
But when it really comes down to it, however, we really feel a strong attraction towards other things other than good looks.
As dating expert Alex Carter has written in his book How to Make Him Desire You, "looks do matter to men, yes, but looks aren't the most important element when it comes to desire and attraction."
So now, what exactly do we (men) see in a woman or a girl that surpasses good looks?
How can a girl or a woman capture a man's heart or make a man feel a strong attraction for her?
There's an essential quality that is traditionally attributed to women...
... when you exhibit or demonstrate this quality or attribute, you make yourself desirable... and any man will want, desire and need you, and will choose you over other women.
Now, what quality am I talking about here?
Well, the quality here is none other than being a great cook.
Not just being able to cook... but being able to cook great and delicious meals.
Great meals surpass good looks
Cooking great meals is the most attractive talent any girl can possess that is hard for a guy to resist...
... and indeed, it surpasses good looks.
Have you heard the adage, "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach"?
Yes... you can easily capture a man's heart and make him fall head over heels for you with your cooking skills.
When you're able to cook great and delicious meals, you will automatically appear to be a hundred times more attractive to a man.
Not only do guys or men find good cooking attractive, but they see you as the ultimate dream girl they hope to marry someday.
Having the ability to cook great and delicious meals shows you're a marriage material.
Men see great cooking as an attractive feminine act
Traditionally, a woman is the one who cooks food at home.
And when you can demonstrate that you're a great cook, a guy sees it as an attractive feminine act and he will find you attractive and desirable.
Cooking delicious meals is how you get a man... and then keep him
Now, a noteworthy fact is that, when the guy you're dating eats somewhere else and those foods are not as delicious as yours, it will make him think of you... and ultimately, see you as the ultimate dream girl he hopes to marry someday.
Even when he smells foods that are similar to what you've cooked for him before, it will also make him think of you... and make him want, desire and need you more.
Good looks doesn't keep a man
Yes, while men find good-looking women attractive, the fact is, looks wear off quickly if not complemented with other attractive attributes.
The truth is, a guy who falls in love with a girl or a woman just because the girl or the woman was good-looking will start getting wandering eyes after a while... and will start lusted after other more good-looking girls or women...
... this is especially true when the woman exhibits unattractive attributes, like being a horrible cook.
"When a man only wants to casually date or sleep around, he would usually select a woman based on her looks and looks alone. But, when it comes to selecting a potential mate, things change drastically. His concept of selection goes up several notches, and he becomes a lot more selective than normal. This is the exact phase when a woman's value is the primary factor he looks for, and everything else becomes almost secondary," says dating expert Alex Carter, author of How to Make Him Desire You.
So if you're looking to land yourself a future partner or naturally attract a man, then hone your cooking skills... you will automatically appear to be a hundred times more attractive to a man.
The beauty of cooking great and delicious meals is that any man who's looking for marriage or a life-partner will choose you over a woman who's very good-looking but doesn't possess the right cooking skill.
A guy wouldn't care if you're not a hottie... he will desire you and will want you to be the girl he will marry someday.
Maybe at first, the man will be interested in women with certain physical features, but once he picks up on your attractive attribute, he will be naturally attracted to you... and will want, desire and need you.
Josh Manuel is not a relationship therapist. He's not a pick-up artist. But he brings you quality information on dating and relationship. He offers the best dating tips and relationship advice that will change your love life today. He shares his experiences with you in the hopes that it will help you improve your personal relationship with women. He also teaches stuff that has nothing to do with dating, but the sex aspect of a relationship. Here, he also shares his personal experience to help the average guy have much better sex. You can find his blog at https://www.guysandgurls.com.
Man-to-Man: Advice Column
by Wayne M. Levine
He’s been burned so often, he’s now too tense on dates
I have a really hard time with women. I am trying so hard to find the right one but I seem to mess up most of my dates. I have been told that I come off a little too intense. But all I am trying to do is find out if we are compatible. I have had too many bad experiences and I do not want to get hurt again. Overall, I guess you can say I have pretty low self-esteem at this point and I do not know how to turn things around. It is really frustrating.
All Wound Up
Dear All Wound Up,
A man goes to a psychiatrist. He says, “Doctor, I’m a wigwam, I’m a teepee. I’m a wigwam, I’m a teepee.” “Relax,” says the doctor, “you’re two tents.” You’re a bit too tense, too. And it’s probably because you’ve been doing what you’ve been doing for a long time, without the benefit of some solid feedback from the men. The question is, why are you bringing such intensity to these poor, unsuspecting women you meet? You said it yourself. You don’t want to get hurt. And so you’ve concluded that it makes sense to run these women through a series of probing questions to identify potential problems and to quickly eliminate the rejects. Unfortunately, your behavior is making them all run for the hills. You’ve become the reject. You’re creating a self-fulfilling cycle of rejection, disappointment, frustration, and I bet, a lot of anger. These negative feelings usually cause guys like you to talk about your past relationships on the first date, or first call, or first chat. Now write this down. DO NOT talk about previous women and relationships until you’re long into your new relationship. Another mistake you’ve likely been making is asking these women for their input, advice and opinions about you, about how you might do a better job, etc. Don’t burden them with these questions. You’re putting these girls in a very uncomfortable position. And by the way, keep this up and you’ll never get laid. So, it’s time for you to have a totally different approach. It’s time for you to do the work necessary to feel good about yourself, as a man. Spend some time with a male counselor or men’s group, and start becoming aware of who you are, what you’ve been doing, and what it will take to be the man you want to be. When you begin to trust your gut, you won’t be so concerned about getting hurt. You’ve been hurt so often because you’ve been naive, hoping that “this is the one.” A little boy is naive. A man sees things for what they are, makes adjustmentsif necessaryand then decides what is best for him. If you can be your comfortable self with a woman, the right woman will be attracted to you. The others, well, they won’t call you back, or you won’t call them for a second date. Remember, if you’re looking for a long-term, committed relationship, you only need one woman. The odds are in your favor.
Wayne M. Levine, M.A., mentors men to be better men, husbands and fathers. Email your questions to MantoMan@BetterMen.org. See how you can become a better man at www.BetterMen.org.