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Meeting People From Different Cultural Backgrounds

By Rosemarie Sumalinog Gonzales 

It is always exciting for me to meet people from different cultural backgrounds. It always thrilled me to learn about the culture of people I met from the different parts of the world. In my stay here in Malaysia, I am very lucky to have stayed in a guest house that caters all migrants from other countries. I was able to meet French, Russians, Dutch, Swedish, Hindi, Japanese, Chinese, Spanish, Malaysians and the like.

It is very important also to learn to speak their language. Even a basic understanding of another language can help build bonds with people who speak another language. Concentrate on learning the languages and learn how to speak proficiently. You'll be able to have conversations with new friends in a language they feel most comfortable speaking.

When you interact with people of varied cultural backgrounds, it gives you an opportunity to enhance your verbal communication skills. The more comfortable you are in communicating with others, the more doors are open for you in your personal and professional life.

Every time we collaborate ideas with other people, we also learn from them. Sometimes we are too preoccupied with our own world that it's nice to hear differences in opinion and other perspectives. It's really amazing to learn something from other people whether it's intended or unintended, the result is the same. You are able to broaden your horizon and widen your perspectives.

Be open and kind to all the people you meet. Being nice to everybody and willing to learn about new experiences help you make new friends wherever you go. Never judge other people because their experience is different from yours. Try to find something that you can have in common to relate to the person. You can ask them about their lives and you can also share the things that you're interested in. Never come off as condescending or rude to anybody. Keep yourself open to great possibilities. And it's always great to make a new friends by being the first to open the conversation.

When you are around with new people, you can come alive with new creative ideas to learn from about your life. Having a strong network of people who are experts in different fields is an awesome experience! Because when you need something, it's always a good thing to have trusted people to lean on. The person next to you might be the one you need right now or could be in the future.

Meeting people from around the globe is a very exciting and fun experience for me. It broadens my perspective of the world.

Happy Birthday To All Those Born In May


Relationships: Why Do Some Men Want A Mother Figure?

By Oliver JR Cooper

Just because a man looks like a man, it doesn't mean that he feels likes like a man on the inside. What is going on externally is then going to have very little to do with what is going on internally.

Still, even though his physical appearance will create the impression that he is a man, it doesn't mean that his behavior will create the same impression. His behavior is then going to shed light on what is happening within him.

Two Experiences

Now, while he may be aware that he feels like a boy, there is also the chance that he isn't aware. If he is aware of this he may end up looking into what he can do to change how he feels.

Through doing this, it will give him to chance to emotionally grow up and to grow into a strong man in the process. On the other hand, if he hasn't been able to step back and how he feels is just seen as a normal part of him, his life is unlikely to change.

An Identity

Due to how long he has felt this way for, it is not going to occur to him that he feels like a boy. The emotional experience that he has is then just going to be seen as part of who he is.

Even so, this doesn't mean that there won't be moments in his life when he ends up feeling frustrated and angry. Yet, when this does happen, it might not be long until he ends up feeling down and even depressed.

A Bleak Existence

As a result of how he feels and the view that he has of himself and the world, it may mean that he is used to being walked over by others. This is likely to show that it is a challenge for him to stand his ground.

Along with this, he may also lack a sense of direction, not knowing what he wants to do with his life. Therefore, even if he has a job, it doesn't mean that he will feel as though he is on the right track.

Up and Down

If his emotions are generally out of balance, this is going to be another area of his life that causes him problems. The emotional part of his being is not going to be on his side, so to speak, it will be working against him.

Consequently, there may be a number of things in the external world that he relies on to sooth his emotions. One way he may do this is by masturbating to porn and/or he might take drugs, for instance.

A Strong Attraction

When it comes to the type of woman that a man like this is drawn to, it is unlikely that this will be a woman who is very feminine. The reason for this is that this man is going to want a woman who possesses what he hasn't developed.

This is not to say that he will be consciously aware of the kind of women that he is attracted to, though, as this could be something that he hasn't thought about. But even if he is not aware of the type of women that he is drawn to, it may become clear if he was to think about the kind of women he has been with or drawn to over the years.

A Closer Look

As he lacks a sense of direction, is emotionally unstable and finds it hard to assert himself, the woman he is drawn to can be someone who takes care of this for him. The woman is then going to be strongly attached to her masculine energy, while he will be strongly attached to his feminine energy.

From the outside, a woman like this may appear to be a strong woman, but this could be nothing more than an illusion. Instead, this could be a woman who has lost touch with her feminine aspect due to the fact that she doesn't feel safe enough to embrace this side of her being.

A False-Self

The self that she presents to the world is then a mask that she we wears to keep her inner wounds at bay. How she feels deep down is then going to be mirrored back to her by the type of man that she ends up with.

Unconsciously, he will see her as someone who will give him that he didn't get as a child and in him, she will see the part of herself that she has lost touch with and needs to be rescued, which means that both of them will be emotionally unavailable and unable to be present in the relationship. Both of them will be playing a role, making it more or less impossible for them to deeply connect with each other.

The Way Forward

In order for a man like this to end up with a woman who is in touch with her feminine aspect, he will need to embrace his masculine aspect. By working through his own inner wounds, he will no longer look toward a women to give him a sense of direction, to sooth his emotions or to sort his challenges out.

Once this has taken place, a will be able to attract a woman who has embraced her feminine aspect and feels safe enough to be vulnerable around him. There may be moments when he occasionally sees her as his mother, but a big part of him will know that she isn't.

Awareness

If a man is looking for a mother figure it may show that his mother and father were emotionally unavailable during his early years. The love that he needed from his mother and the guidance that he needed from his father wouldn't have been provided

When it comes to healing the early damage, a man may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, one hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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Man-to-Man: Advice Column

by Wayne M. Levine

He’s accepting the unacceptable

Dear Wayne,

I am married and have two young girls. My problem is with my wife. She blames me for everything, uses foul language all the time, will leave abusive messages on my voicemail when she’s upset—she texted me 15 times the other day calling me an ***hole—and she refuses to go to counseling. I admit that I have not been the most emotionally aware guy in our marriage. But I have been working with a counselor for over a year. I do my best to make changes, to be thoughtful, and to be an example to my girls. I think I have made real progress. But nothing seems to change my wife’s behavior. She says she does not even like me. I don’t want a divorce. I just don’t know what to do.

Signed,

Beaten Down

Dear Beaten Down,

Your problem isn’t your wife. Your problem is your lack of self-respect, your inability to take a stand for yourself and your girls, and in not knowing instinctively what is acceptable and utterly unacceptable. Before you can deal with the history between the two of you, before you can expect to discuss current family concerns effectively, you have to draw a line regarding inappropriate and abusive behavior and language. Until you are willing to take a stand, don’t expect anything else to change. You may be frightened by the prospect of getting a divorce. I don’t blame you. No one wants to see that happen, especially the children. But that fear is paralyzing you, allowing you to continue to accept the unacceptable from your wife. Although it may feel counterintuitive at the moment, the courage to confront your wife’s threats of divorce (I’m guessing the threats are part of her arsenal) and to face her predictably unpleasant response to you taking a stand, is exactly what you need to demonstrate. She feels the absence of a strong, confident, loving and dependable man, so she feels the need to assume that role. The less masculine you are, the more masculine she becomes. And that means the less feminine she feels. Rather than feeling the security of having a man who can care, lead and love, she feels insecure. All of this leads to a lack of respect. With this can come sadness, a sense of betrayal, resentment and anger. And right now, you’re feeling all of it! Your next step is to become the man you’ve always wanted to be. You do that by reading my book, finding a circle of men to help you develop the vision of that man you want to be, and maybe find a different counselor or mentor who understands your struggle as a man and who can support you in this masculine journey. Making this shift is a tall order. But you have to begin. It may not save this marriage, but it’s what you must do to save your life, and to be the very best example possible for your girls. Remember, if you remain that doormat for your wife, you can rest assured your girls will treat their men the same way.

Wayne M. Levine, M.A., mentors men to be better men, husbands and fathers. Email your questions to MantoMan@BetterMen.org. See how you can become a better man at www.BetterMen.org. 

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