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3 Important Dating Tips For Women Over 60

By Lyndon Ratcliffe Ogden 

Dating over sixty is supposed to be very satisfying. You need companionship, love and a shoulder to lean on through all. Women who are over 60 get into dating to pillar their lives and to enjoy their senior years in the appropriate company. Considering that there are fewer responsibilities at sixty, maybe because children are all grown up and have left home, there is so much idle time in the life of a woman who is over 60. Getting into a new relationship can be of immense value to such a woman. But to truly be happy dating again after 60, there are a few things that you must remember and stick to.

1. Never feel too old for your man - Whether you decide to date men your age or younger men who are interested in you, never ever feel too old or like you are not worthy anymore. Men love women who remain confident about themselves, even when signs of aging are evident on their skins. Choose outfits that flatter you, but remain comfortable for you and decent. You should also not try too hard to hide your aging but instead have a way appearing as though you are aging gracefully. Smile more and let your fun side show. You also should try as much as possible to remember that your man loves you the way you are and you do not need to go to the extremes trying to change into the person you think he wants.

2. Remember, you are not desperate - Nothing can be worse than a woman over 60 who appears desperate and too clingy. Give the relationship time to mature in the most natural way, no matter how badly you might be needing company and to be showered with love. Play it cool and find other things to do with your time to create a good distance with your man so the relationship grows and thrives. With years of experience in relationships, you are definitely what makes a relationship work and what makes it fail. Try to be modest about everything you do with regards to the relationship and never feel like you are in a rush for anything because you are not. You are actually allowed to play hard to get even at your age!

3. Understand there are things you cannot do anymore - When you are over 60, your energy levels may be down and this means there are things you may not be able to execute as you did before when you are in a relationship. You may not be able to maintain an intense workout regime as you did before so do not break your back trying to impress your man. You may also not be as flexible and wild in bed as you used to be so do only what you can comfortably handle without feeling embarrassed. You may not be as willing or able to go about clubbing and dancing as before but do not be ashamed to make a good dinner at home and inviting your man over and do a number of other fun things you both will enjoy.

Women dating over 60 have as much control over the relationships as men do. Have your expectations right and value your happiness more and you are bound to succeed. Choose a good over 60 dating site to kick start dating life again.


Why Men Cannot Commit In A Relationship

By David Samuel

Long ago, before women had equality in the workplace, a man would spend all day at work mainly only with men, then come home to his wife.

Now there are many women who are very young and beautiful and intelligent and sexy throughout the workplace that men interact with every day.

Men and women, humans, are merely an animal and driven by nature which commands animals to make as many babies as they can to propagate the species with a diverse genetic pool.

When there is no temptation, meaning no women to look at as in a monastery, the sexual drive is not activated. This is why the Jews and Muslims separate men and women in prayers, so we can focus on God instead of hooking up. It's just a sad fact of being human. Denial or disagreement does not change reality.

However, when a man is surrounded by attractive, sexy and desirous females all day, it is impossible to not have the animal instincts activated.

Sexual energy is the creative and motivating energy that makes life interesting and gives a person a spark to live. That is why we all like to have some sexual stimulation in our life. This energy should never be stifled.

The only way to stop this desire is castration, but then more than just sexual desire is removed, the whole spark for life is killed.

Being conscientiously undeveloped, as 98% of humans are, the mind will be driven by the animal nature and reject the concept of not being able to mate with all desirous partners. Since there are so many potentials every day, the idea of monogamy is sub-consciously rejected by the basic animal nature.

Commitment is a relatively new mental concept in terms of human history. All ancient religions and traditions, and some modern ones such as Islam and Mormonism, practice polygamy.

If a man does not understand that the desires are purely animal in nature and not for any value other than to fulfill the basic evolution of the species, he will confuse the desires for other women with not being satisfied with the current partner.

On the other hand, if the woman does not understand what is driving her man to fear commitment, i.e. the animal nature consistently whispering in his ear, or other organs, that he should not be tied to one woman, her frustration and fear can cause her to behave in a way that will encourage him to want to leave and push him away.

Understanding the workings of the human machine is the only way to use mind over nature and make a conscious choice with emotional comfort to remove the power that desires have, rather than let desires control decisions.

David Samuel is The Entrepreneur Monk, applying his understanding of the mind and emotions in business, relationships and personal growth.

Your mind makes you a success or failure, business skill is only a small part.

David resolved the riddle of why we do what is bad for us yet do not do what we know is beneficial and teaches that very effectively.

Read more about David EntrepreneurMonk.com

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Relationship: Why Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are In A Relationship?

By Oliver JR Cooper 

If one is not currently in a relationship, they may find that this doesn't have effect on how they see themselves. It is then still going to be possible for them to feel good about who they are, and this is going to make it easier for them to function.

A Whole Human Being

Ultimately, one is not going to feel as though they are missing something and that they need to be with someone in order to be complete. Consequently, one will be able to enjoy being in a relationship but they need to be in one.

Through being this way, they are not going to have a strong need to be with someone; they will be able to appreciate their own company. One will be living their life and they won't have put it on hold until they start a new relationship.

Boundaries

What this is likely to show is that one has a strong sense of where they begin and end, and where other people begin and end. One is not going to see themselves as an extension of other people.

Not only will one be physically separate from others, they will also be emotionally separate from them. This is what will allow them to feel like a whole human being, and it can then be normal for them to be mentally and emotionally stable.

Individuation

When one experiences life in this way, it can be a sign that they received what they needed to receive when they were younger. Their developmental needs would have been met, and this would have allowed them to develop in the right way.

This is then going to be how their life has more or less always been, and one is not going to know what it is like to experience life differently. One would have started of as a dependent human being and they would have grown into an interdependent human being.

Another Experience

At the same time, there is also the chance that one hasn't always been this way and that they know what it is like to experience life differently. One is then going to be able to empathize with people who are still experiencing life in this way.

So if they were to come into contact with someone who is going through what they have been through, they will be able to support them. Still, this doesn't mean that the other person will be able to accept what they hear, as they might not be ready to hear what they have to say.

Two Parts

What this comes down to is that it is not always a simple as just telling someone something; they have to be ready to take it in. When they are ready to change, they will be able to apply what they have been told.

There are then the people who want to change but can't find what they need, and there are those who are given the right information but who have no interest in using it. This is why it is a waste of time for one to try to assist those who don't want to be assisted.

A Radically Different Experience

When one only feels good about themselves when they are with someone, they are likely to have a strong need to be in a relationship. It then might not matter who they are with as long as they are with someone.

This could mean that they have the tendency to end up with people who are abusive, or they might just end up with people who are not a good match for them. Either way, this area of their life is not going to be very fulfilling.

Incomplete

If they were to step back from what is taking place and to tune into what is taking place within them, they may feel as though something is missing. They are going to be an autonomous human being, but it will be as if they need to be with someone to feel complete.

One is then not going to be an interdependent human being; they will be a dependent human being. Therefore, even though one has their own body to experience life with, it can be as if they are nothing more than an empty shell.

Emotional Regulation

Their need to be in a relationship is not going to be the result of their need to connect and to share their life with another human being; it will be a way for them to control how they feel. Being with someone will elevate their mood, and this is going to cause them to give their power away.

On some level, the people they end up with will probably realize how they feel about themselves. One could have an inferiority complex and the people they end up with could have a superiority complex.

A Deeper Look

Their younger years may have been a time when their developmental needs were not met, and this may mean that they were abused and/or neglected. This would have stopped them from being able to form a strong sense of self.

Their inherent value wouldn't have been acknowledged and they would have experienced a lot of pain/trauma. One is then going to look like an adult, but they will feel like a dependent child, and this is then why they only feel valuable when they are in a relationship.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be necessary for them to work with a therapist or a healer. This will give them the chance to develop boundaries and to connect to their inherent value, amongst other things.

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

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Where Is Your Dream Partner?

By Desh Dixon 

Love. Such a beautiful thing when it's right. We all want to love and be loved. And we are worthy and deserving of love. Most of us have made mistakes in relationships before and hopefully we've learned our lessons as we try to move closer to manifesting 'the one'. I believe we can all have what we want including our dream partner. However, the truth must be told that there are some things that can prohibit us from receiving the love we desire. And it starts with us from the inside out. Here are a few things to consider:

Space. Some of us are asking for a partner when in reality there is no room in our lives for him/her. You have to make space for what you're asking for. For example, if you are wishing and hoping for your dream husband/wife but someone is currently in their place (you're in a relationship, situationship, friends w/benefits), there is no room for them. Be honest with yourself. You need to clean up some stuff in your life so you have the space for what you're asking for. Even if it wasn't a relationship, the principle remains that you may need to do some spring cleaning; get rid of the old to make room for the new. Love can only come where it's welcomed, where there is space for it. So if you're holding onto the very person or relationship you need to let go of, chances are that it's blocking your blessing.

Forgiveness. You have to forgive yourself and others. Many of us are still holding onto old hurts and disappointments that are weighing us down emotionally and mentally. This is also a part of spring cleaning. You have to let go of the past. Holding onto grudges only hurts you, not the other person. That person may have moved on with their life yet you are still a prisoner in your own mind. Let go. Release. When you don't, they keep the power. Forgive them. Forgiveness is for yourself. It does not mean that you condone what they may have done but that you love yourself enough to forgive them, yourself, and release it so you can move forward.

Clarity. Do you know what you want? Do you know the core values that are important in your own life? You have to be clear on what's important to you so you are clear in the qualities you need from in your dream partner. In addition, you also need to become that which you want to attract. Move away from the fantasy and the idea of love and get real clear about what you really need but also where you really are in life. What are you deal breakers? In other words, what is non-negotiable? It shouldn't be anything superficial but more values-based. I believe two people should be aligned to each other's overall life visions. No relationship is perfect and I do believe in balance but there should be compatibility in lifestyles.

Love is easy. But when we're not clear, holding onto old crap, and truly don't have any space in our lives for it, it becomes a bit more difficult to attract. Let's clean house. Do some internal spring cleaning so you can make room for bigger and better and all of your hearts desires. Because you deserve it.

You can download a Free chapter of my book at http://www.changingyourtune.com

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Man-to-Man: Advice Column

by Wayne M. Levine

He’s accepting the unacceptable

Dear Wayne,

I am married and have two young girls. My problem is with my wife. She blames me for everything, uses foul language all the time, will leave abusive messages on my voicemail when she’s upset—she texted me 15 times the other day calling me an ***hole—and she refuses to go to counseling. I admit that I have not been the most emotionally aware guy in our marriage. But I have been working with a counselor for over a year. I do my best to make changes, to be thoughtful, and to be an example to my girls. I think I have made real progress. But nothing seems to change my wife’s behavior. She says she does not even like me. I don’t want a divorce. I just don’t know what to do.

Signed,

Beaten Down

Dear Beaten Down,

Your problem isn’t your wife. Your problem is your lack of self-respect, your inability to take a stand for yourself and your girls, and in not knowing instinctively what is acceptable and utterly unacceptable.

Before you can deal with the history between the two of you, before you can expect to discuss current family concerns effectively, you have to draw a line regarding inappropriate and abusive behavior and language. Until you are willing to take a stand, don’t expect anything else to change.

You may be frightened by the prospect of getting a divorce. I don’t blame you. No one wants to see that happen, especially the children. But that fear is paralyzing you, allowing you to continue to accept the unacceptable from your wife. Although it may feel counterintuitive at the moment, the courage to confront your wife’s threats of divorce (I’m guessing the threats are part of her arsenal) and to face her predictably unpleasant response to you taking a stand, is exactly what you need to demonstrate.

She feels the absence of a strong, confident, loving and dependable man, so she feels the need to assume that role. The less masculine you are, the more masculine she becomes. And that means the less feminine she feels.

Rather than feeling the security of having a man who can care, lead and love, she feels insecure. All of this leads to a lack of respect. With this can come sadness, a sense of betrayal, resentment and anger. And right now, you’re feeling all of it!

Your next step is to become the man you’ve always wanted to be. You do that by reading my book, finding a circle of men to help you develop the vision of that man you want to be, and maybe find a different counselor or mentor who understands your struggle as a man and who can support you in this masculine journey.

Making this shift is a tall order. But you have to begin. It may not save this marriage, but it’s what you must do to save your life, and to be the very best example possible for your girls. Remember, if you remain that doormat for your wife, you can rest assured your girls will treat their men the same way.

Wayne M. Levine, M.A., mentors men to be better men, husbands and fathers. Email your questions to MantoMan@BetterMen.org. See how you can become a better man at www.BetterMen.org. 

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