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What's With No Stringed Attached Relationships

By Rosemarie Sumalinog Gonzales

No stringed attached relationship is about casual relationships with no commitment. Friends with benefits never work. A no stringed attached relationship is about sex, not friendship. In fact, as long as you're single, you're allowed to date anybody other than your hookup friends. If you start investing energy with someone at one point in your life will befuddle the lines of your relationship. The relationship is just plain sex and that's it, so keep it that way.

So as to remain unattached, you have to keep things on a need-to-know premise. Try not to talk about your days, contemplation, inclinations, or any personal subtleties of your lives. After you're finished with the deed, don't stay nearby. There are no sleepovers here. He just needs to fulfill you physically, not inwardly, so keep it cool and head home.

You don't need to lay down with a lot of various folks.You can't begin concentrating on your hookup pal as a potential. Keep in mind consistently that you're a solitary lady, totally unattached. Never let your attach hold up traffic of your reality.

You're not his better half, so you don't have to determine the status of him. You have to remain genuinely uninvolved, so you shouldn't mind what he's doing when he's not with you. Concentrate on what you're doing when you're not with him, since this is your life, and he's scarcely even piece of it.

With the end goal for this to work, you both should be in agreement, so have a discussion and explain your status as a solitary lady. In the event that you're both transparently mindful of this not exactly easygoing relationship, at that point there's no unbalanced disarray and you will both be spared from the awfulness of needing something more.

You don't have the additional worry of minding what your partner considers you, so this is the ideal opportunity to investigate all your most profound dreams. Because you don't discuss the internal most subtleties of your lives doesn't mean you can't discuss anything. The one thing you should discuss is sex. Try not to be hesitant to reveal to him what you need.

Presently like never before you have to rehearse safe sex. You don't have a clue what he's doing when he's not with you or how unbridled he's been before. This is one relationship you don't need to pay attention to in this way, so unwind. No hidden obligations ought to be quiet and easygoing. You don't have the pressure that genuine connections involve. So appreciate the opportunity and each climax while it endures.

Turning a no stringed attached fling into a serious relationship is complex but possible. The first is committing. Both of you were initially having just a fling that none was committed to but now things are getting serious. For a stable relationship, both partners have to be emotionally invested in it. This poses the greatest challenge. Communication is another thing. In spite of the need to nurture the feelings while in a sort of relationship, at whatever point they hold you up.

It's better to accept that a no stringed attached relationship implies that you're sexually intimate, but that's as far as your relationship goes without commitment at all.

No stringed attached relationship is enjoying a physical connection with another person, with no sense of obligation or commitment. Many people involved in no strings attached relationships enjoy the thrill and excitement of this kind of connection with someone while avoiding the possible issues, concerns, and misunderstandings that can arise in a more serious relationship.

10 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem

By Shalini M 

Self-esteem is the backbone of a person's success. It is a quality which helps you realize your potential and worth, so that you always work towards harnessing your full potential. When you start doubting your own worth, you can become a victim to serious problems such as depression. A person who is depressed has no willingness or motivation to live and can, therefore, develop suicidal thoughts in his mind.

Hence, it is very important to boost your self-esteem. When you know your worth, it helps you achieve bigger things in your life than you ever imagined. If you thought you could build your self-esteem by mental tricks and visualization techniques, you are mistaken.

James T Canmore, in his book, "Hole in the Soul to Supercharged Spirit" explains that your mind can never heal your soul; instead, it is your soul that heals your mind. The 10 practical self-esteem boosting tips mentioned in this book are:

Be nice to yourself

Never be too harsh on yourself and don't always try to find the negative aspects of things that you do. Give yourself a pat on your back for any good job that you do.

Look after your physical body

Your soul and mind can be healthy only when your body is healthy. Therefore, never neglect your health at any cost. Eat the right foods at the right time, get enough exercise and remain fit & healthy.

Take regular stock of your strengths and weaknesses

You should know what you are good at and what you can improve upon, if you want to realize your potential. Develop your strengths while you spend additional time and effort to work on your weaknesses and bridge the gaps there as well.

Surround yourself with positive people

Ensure that the group of people you are hanging out with is full of positivity and happiness. Their positivity can rub on you as well.

Be a supportive friend to others

Listening is a skill and not everyone is a master of it. You can improve your self-esteem considerably by just being there for your friend and lending him a listening ear.

Take care of your appearance

You should spend enough time and effort on your personal grooming because how you look plays an important role in how you feel mentally & physically as well.

Do something nice for someone else

The feeling of helping others is priceless. Do whatever you can to make others happy. It will make you feel good about yourself.

List your accomplishments daily

Make a note of your achievements on a daily basis so that you know where you stand. It can boost your morale significantly.

List and follow your passions in life

Write down all your passions and make some time to follow them whenever you can so that you feel like you are adding meaning and value to your life.

Be true to yourself

None of these above tips will work if you aren't honest to yourself. Set reasonable targets and appreciate yourself when you meet them.

Man-to-Man: Advice Column

by Wayne M. Levine

He’s accepting the unacceptable

Dear Wayne,

I am married and have two young girls. My problem is with my wife. She blames me for everything, uses foul language all the time, will leave abusive messages on my voicemail when she’s upset—she texted me 15 times the other day calling me an ***hole—and she refuses to go to counseling. I admit that I have not been the most emotionally aware guy in our marriage. But I have been working with a counselor for over a year. I do my best to make changes, to be thoughtful, and to be an example to my girls. I think I have made real progress. But nothing seems to change my wife’s behavior. She says she does not even like me. I don’t want a divorce. I just don’t know what to do.


Beaten Down

Dear Beaten Down,

Your problem isn’t your wife. Your problem is your lack of self-respect, your inability to take a stand for yourself and your girls, and in not knowing instinctively what is acceptable and utterly unacceptable. Before you can deal with the history between the two of you, before you can expect to discuss current family concerns effectively, you have to draw a line regarding inappropriate and abusive behavior and language. Until you are willing to take a stand, don’t expect anything else to change. You may be frightened by the prospect of getting a divorce. I don’t blame you. No one wants to see that happen, especially the children. But that fear is paralyzing you, allowing you to continue to accept the unacceptable from your wife. Although it may feel counterintuitive at the moment, the courage to confront your wife’s threats of divorce (I’m guessing the threats are part of her arsenal) and to face her predictably unpleasant response to you taking a stand, is exactly what you need to demonstrate. She feels the absence of a strong, confident, loving and dependable man, so she feels the need to assume that role. The less masculine you are, the more masculine she becomes. And that means the less feminine she feels. Rather than feeling the security of having a man who can care, lead and love, she feels insecure. All of this leads to a lack of respect. With this can come sadness, a sense of betrayal, resentment and anger. And right now, you’re feeling all of it! Your next step is to become the man you’ve always wanted to be. You do that by reading my book, finding a circle of men to help you develop the vision of that man you want to be, and maybe find a different counselor or mentor who understands your struggle as a man and who can support you in this masculine journey. Making this shift is a tall order. But you have to begin. It may not save this marriage, but it’s what you must do to save your life, and to be the very best example possible for your girls. Remember, if you remain that doormat for your wife, you can rest assured your girls will treat their men the same way.

Wayne M. Levine, M.A., mentors men to be better men, husbands and fathers. Email your questions to MantoMan@BetterMen.org. See how you can become a better man at www.BetterMen.org. 

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