How To Rebuild A Relationship Once It Has Broken
By James Nussbaumer
Sadly, struggling and working at how to rebuild a relationship, is typically among those things. We begin discovering that being in a wonderful relationship takes work. If this sounds familiar to you, and you feel your relationship might be better, then continue reading.
It means you realize the "holy relationship," as the Course in Miracles terms, being of you and that you're capable of.
You can not start fixing a broken relationship if you are not aware it is broken.
Take heart and start working towards learning how to rebuild a relationship, making yours a holy one at that.
The Course in Miracles states, "The holy relationship is a phenomenal teaching accomplishment. In all its aspects, as it begins, develops and becomes accomplished, it represents the reversal of the unholy relationship."
You may be able to patch things up on your own if you and your partner are excellent at interacting with one another.
Maybe there was a time when you could talk to each other, but you have actually since started drifting apart.
You need to stop immediately, otherwise you may end up in a complete blown argument and state things you will regret later on. Speaking of saying things you'll be sorry for later is one of the things to let go of when fixing a broken relationship.
Remember to deal with each other with respect as you're working things out.
The key to fixing a broken relationship and making this work is to take it slowly, discuss the habits (not the person), and how it makes you feel.
If, in spite of your finest efforts, you find that you're not making any progress, then it's time to take the next step.
Don't worry, more couples than you 'd ever believe have actually had counseling for fixing a broken relationship at one point or another.
It's not a reflection on your weak points, however rather proof that you still care enough about your relationship and to save your marriage to try to heal it.
Whether you opt to try to repair things yourself or seek relationship counseling, what counts is that you are doing something.
Stick with it, be willing to do whatever it takes and you will have your marriage back in shape in no time.
Healing the Relationship
Sadly, worrying and fixing a broken relationship over how to save my relationship is typically one of those things.
If you and your partner are great at communicating with one another, then see it as a holy relationship and shift forward in mind from within yourself to patching things up.
Remember to keep in mind to treat each other with respect as you're working things out. You both might not like some of things the other one is doing, however you don't need to make it personal.
Simply act from the heart, and your love for each other will grow.
To mending your relationship!
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Learning to Love Her Anyway
By Moona Sharief
We all want to cherish that special person in our life whom we hold close to our heart. Practically, this idea runs into many problems because of individual differences make agreement difficult.
You are two different people with different views of the world. To live together harmoniously, you should create a shared dream that is important to both of you. It could be buying a house together or celebrating your twentieth anniversary together. These beautiful dreams will help you focus on the positive aspects of your relationship.
1. Love the minor differences
No two people are exactly alike-even those besotted with each other. Big or small, differences are likely to creep up from the unlikeliest of places. If you want to love her unconditionally, you will need to care for her in spite of the differences. Remember, differences occur not due to someone's fault, but due to the fact that you are two individuals. Do not try to change her, but try to move ahead with a better understanding of each other.
2. Don't take things personally
There are times when certain aspects of your personality come into sharp focus. Maybe you are a loner and her highly sociable lifestyle throws your limited social circle right back at you. Constantly. Do not develop a complex about these things. Instead of taking them personally, view these things in perspective. She has her life and you need to love her for her personality - it should happen the other way round as well.
3. Set rules
Setting rules is a great way to make your expectations more explicit. Rather than springing up surprises and causing the other person to feel uncomfortable, it can help if both of you know what to expect from each other in specific circumstances. You can set rules for interacting in public or with each other's friends and parents, managing expenses, and so on. This will reduce disagreements and make it easy to build a relationship.
If you want to love her unconditionally, you will have to learn to forgive, even when your mind feels like a pressure cooker or your heart is bleeding. Just forgive. In the end, nothing is worth hurting someone with your words. You can always return to the matter after both of you have distanced yourself from it to decide what went wrong. Once you have done that, simply put it to rest for good.
5. Don't make everything your problem
Many people feel very responsible and protective towards their partners. While this is a good thing, it can often lead to an unbalanced relationship. Everybody has problems, and your girlfriend will have hers. Trust her to solve her problems on her own. If she needs your help, she will let you know. Until then, you should simply stay away but let her know you are always ready to help.
To love someone anyways is about valuing him or her as a complete person, not as an idealized image you have in your mind. Realizing that you are a person with a vibrant personality can be one of the most enriching aspects of your life.
They say happy couples live longer and happier lives. Strong and enduring relationships do not exist just in the movies. Like millions of real couples, you too can develop a rich relationship with your partner. Share this article to help others take responsibility for their relationships and care for their partners in an enlightened way. Subscribe to our blogs to receive regular updates about interesting articles to improve your relationships and lead a more satisfied life.