For Women: Self-
Consciousness
Remedy - How to Cure Self-
Consciousness Naturally

By Rosina S Khan

Are you always too self-conscious of yourself about people looking at you and scrutinizing you? I have remedies to help you feel better. Read on to find out.

Here goes:

Understand that people may be interested in you but if you don't pay attention, they hardly hold their interest. They start heeding others. So, you are pretty safe, can relax and enjoy the occasion wherever you are.

Your self-talk and so do other people. If you make a mistake such as, dropping a glass or bumping on a guy, you hardly have to feel bad. Most of the people around are worried about themselves only and their self-talk is about them and not you. So, comprehend that even if you make mistakes like the above, they are hardly thinking about you.

At a gathering or reunion of some kind, if your thoughts are continuously about self-
consciousness, help yourself by saying quietly to yourself: TERMINATE. Then and there stop thinking that way. Find someone you know and start talking and gradually find more friends/relatives to talk and enjoy your time.

Now I gravitate the above three situations towards more positive ways:

Suppose people are watching you with interest as you have dressed yourself very elegantly. Look around and open your eyes. See around and find out who it is that you like and walk up to him gracefully and intentionally without feeling self-conscious. Strike a jolly conversation and laugh your fears and concerns away.

You have made your mistake. Look around quickly and share with someone your blunder and how much you are sorry. You can even ask him/her to show you the host so that you can apologize. About bumping on someone else, confess to someone how clumsy you have been that you haven't really noticed the person you have bumped on. Acknowledging your mistake(s) will make you feel much better. You don't feel self-conscious and become ready in the mood to enjoy the occasion wherever you may be.

If you can't help but feel self-conscious as long as you have been in the gathering or reunion, saying TERMINATE to yourself will help but also change your thoughts to something more positive. For example, say to yourself, "I can see Kate there. She is always so decent. I will go up to her and spend a few minutes with her. Perhaps she can introduce me to more like-
minded people." Or, you can say, "I can see old grandma in the kitchen. Probably I can give her a helping hand and come across more people through her." This kind of positive self-talk actually results in happening what you wish for.

Summing up, the above six scenarios help to make you realize that feeling self-conscious is redundant and a waste of time. You can do so much better feeling confident and communicating with people graciously.

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TO OUR HERO'S ON THE FRONG LINES, BE SAFE AND BE CAREFUL WE ARE WITH YOU!

HERO’S

Chantelle at Custom Sashes Makes Masks

By Doreen Wade, N.E. Informer Editor

At this difficult time for small businesses we are showing even with personal financial losses people they stand as the bright spot for our Health System,whenever possible. As we hear the please of nurses and doctors we learn about businesses like Chantelle at Custom Sahses and we want to take a moment to spotlight.

In our communication between N.E. Informer an actual client of Chantelle at Custom Sashes, Chantelle stated, “Since most social events have been postponed, sash orders have slowed down of course.  So, we wanted to do something productive and helpful with our time and resources.”

Then she explained: “We had Cotton Print fabric in stock for our specialty border sashes. So, we are using this Cotton Print fabric to make the Sewn Protective masks and we are donating them to local hospitals and facilities requesting urgent supplies.”

In wondering how it would help, she helped us by communicating, “Of course, the sewn masks do not replace the N95 quality masks, but in some circumstances the medical providers have no protection left to wear and these sewn masks are better than zero protection.”  “In other situations, we have been told they have to re-use one N95 mask, so they are adding the hand sewn mask over the top to provide extra protection and longer wear between sanitization.”

First batch of fabric masks being donated!

Each mask is sewn with a bendable wire piece so it can fit snug around the nose.
Elastic straps in various colors/styles to go over the ears.

Lots of Fun Prints will be used

She is trying to bring a bright spot into their lives as she said: “We have some other fun prints ordered and arriving soon!”

Chantelle’s words to all of us were: “Stay home & safe until we all get through this and back to our busy routine!”  “We are all in this together!”

So together Chantelle and I say to all those reading and sharing this article, “Remember if possible, continue to support your favorite small businesses that are struggling during this time.”

Chantelle at Custom Sashes will be open for sash orders during this time.   So, when you are planning your next event, because we will soon need these things, just remember this hero took her own inventory, at her own cost and put other’s needs before her finances. 

*Important*    price quotes are time sensitive and can expire after 24 hours.
Production time is critical in your sash quote pricing. If we have less time, the price increases.


2 ordering options:
*Traditional* - request a computer sample (optional) and checkout invoice link to pay for your order.
**New** - design your sash on our website,  add to cart and purchase.

Thank you for considering us for your special event. I know how important it is for your order to be beautifully made and just how you want it.

So, when you can give back as she has given to those.

TESTIMONIAL BY PRESIDENT OF SALEM UNITED

N.E. Informer's Publisher and CEO is also the President of Salem United. Salem United became a customer of Chantelle Custom Sashes in 2019. Salem United ordered Grand Marshall, King and Queen sashes for the Black Picnic Day parade. We had 2 weeks before the parade and the order was filled, shipped and arrived the day before the parade. We thank them for their great customer service.

N.E. Informer is hoping to do a series of articles on businesses and people who took from their selves and gave to others or reached out to help others or just reached out to make someone feel that safety against loss.  If you know of a story or have a business, please send them to us.  We want to support our Hero’s.

For future Hero stories please check out our All Eyes On You Page

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Black Moms and the Infant Mortality Crisis in America

By Stanley G Buford

The facts are Alarming!!!

There is, unfortunately, an indisputable truth in America: that black mothers, and their babies, die at a staggering rate during childbirth.  When compared to their white counterparts, even across class lines, the difference is shocking.

Even during their prenatal appointments, black women are treated unbelievably poorly. Their concerns are ignored and minimized by doctors; medical staff treat them rudely; not to mention the institutionalized, systemic racism that black people in general endure throughout American society, which, for black women, is compounded by experiences of sexism.

Simone Landrum's story

One of the most recent full-fledged investigations into the crisis of American infant mortality rates was the New York Times Magazine cover story, "Why America's Black Mothers and Babies Are in a Life-Or-Death Crisis written by journalist Linda Villarosa (a black mother herself).

The feature article, which came out in April of 2018, detailed both the cumulative research which has proven that the crisis exists, and also followed the personal journey of a Simone Landrum, a black mother who suffered the tragic experience of delivering a stillborn baby due to medical complications that were arguably quite preventable.

Despite advocating for herself on multiple occasions to her doctor, telling him of her severe symptoms, such as intense swelling, strong headaches, and sensitivity to light, her doctor ignored her pleas for help, instead telling her to calm down and simply take some Tylenol. After Landrum later tracked down her medical file, it also revealed that the same office had measured her blood pressure, which indicated an alarmingly high reading, for which no action was taken.

This negligence led to Landrum eventually losing her baby due to complications related to her extremely high blood pressure. The article then follows Landrum's journey of becoming pregnant again-this time, supported by a doula, who helped her both process her grief and move forward towards delivering a healthy baby boy.

The bigger picture in America

Unfortunately, Simone Landrum's story is only one of many. Countless studies have proven the fact that black mothers are treated substantially worse than white mothers during their pregnancies.

Villarosa's article references several shocking statistics, including:

"In 1960, the United States was ranked 12th among developed countries in infant mortality. Since then, with its rate largely driven by the deaths of black babies, the United States has fallen behind and now ranks 32nd out of the 35 wealthiest nations."

"Black infants in America are now more than twice as likely to die as white infants - 11.3 per 1,000 black babies, compared with 4.9 per 1,000 white babies, according to the most recent government data."

"... black women in their mid-20s had higher than normal teenage girls did - presumably because they were older, and stress had more time to affect their bodies. For white mothers, the opposite proved true: Teenagers had the highest risk of infant mortality, and women in their mid-20s the lowest."

"... few in the field now dispute that the black-white disparity in the deaths of babies is related not to the genetics of race but to the lived experience of race in this country."

These statistics and findings are striking: it is an undeniable fact that black mothers and their babies face dramatically different obstacles and outcomes.

Americans, and our politicians, enjoy touting our international prestige and standing. It is then profoundly shameful that, despite leading the world in many areas, we seem to have all but forgotten the lives, and dignity, of black women and their babies.

How can we boast about freedom when black women and their babies are not given equal freedom to receive fair medical treatment? This crisis is widespread and serious, and it's time for Americans to realize its gravity.

How you can arm yourself for this difficult battle

No matter how unfair this situation is, the unfortunate reality is that black mothers must still try to navigate this broken system despite the barriers they face. If you are facing this struggle yourself, we've compiled some tips for how you can actively work to counteract the incredible amount of bias and discrimination within America today:

1. Seek out community organizations which work to support black mothers in your state.

The Times Magazine article specifically follows the work of Birthmark Doulas; a New Orleans collective which provides care for women of various backgrounds and classes. Their doula services are available for a fee, on a sliding scale, or even free of cost for low-income women.

The Time Magazine story traces the journey of Simone Landrum, and how her doula, Latona Giwa, supported her during her later pregnancy, during childbirth, and even post-partum. The story illuminates how Giwa provided much-needed emotional support, and how she literally advocated for Landrum during her delivery when the medical team treated her poorly.

This is to say that organizations like Birthmark Doulas can help support you in a system that is, to say the least, stacked against you. Whether you can afford to pay their fees or not, this can be an invaluable resource for you to receive more personalized and sensitive care. Seek out community organizations in your area, through an internet search, or your own medical practitioner.

2. Make a conscious effort to advocate for yourself during medical appointments.

Whether you have a doula or not, it's always a good idea to be vocal about your needs and concerns during your medical appointments. It's sad that this is the reality, but the odds are that many doctors could potentially dismiss your concerns and ignore your symptoms, even when you know deep down that they are serious.

Again, it's a grim reality, but in order to protect both your own health and the health of your baby, make a point of standing up for yourself during your medical appointments.

If your doctor seems dismissive, repeat your concerns: For example, "I know that you're not concerned about this symptom, but I truly believe that it's serious. Could you please run some more tests, or refer me to a specialist for a second opinion?" The doctor may get defensive or angry with you but know that it's well within your rights to speak up for yourself when you think that you're being treated unfairly.

If you feel nervous about doing this alone, perhaps bring your partner, a family member, a close friend, or even your doula with you to your appointments so that they can chime in if they notice that you're being treated unfairly. Again, it's wrong that you even need to take these extremes measures in the first place but being your own advocate can help mitigate the discrimination you may face.

3. Practice some relaxation techniques to decrease your stress levels.

High stress levels are common not just in black mothers, but in black women in general, most likely due to the societal discrimination that you may face. This extreme amount of stress can have detrimental effects on both your own health and the health of your baby.

An excellent article on Essence.com titled "We Need To Rethink What We Tell Black Mothers About Coping With Stress “explains several ways in which you can try to decrease your stress levels. The authors, Aisha Collins and Fatima Varner, note their own research and what they've learned.

The authors note that, for some women, mindfulness can be effective. This is one of the most common recommendations made by medical practitioners for coping with stress and does hold some merit.

But interestingly, they note that, in their own survey, it was found that for black women, prayer seems to be more effective. They also note that, in terms of methods, trying to "pray with gratitude" seems to be more effective than prayers focused on your own mistakes.

So, consider adding either mindfulness meditation or some kind of prayer into your life. If you prefer prayer, try to reflect on what you're thankful for in your life. It could seriously help your stress levels.

Conclusion

My hope as a parent and freelance journalist is that this article has provided you with some much-needed information on the current infant mortality crisis in America. Remember that you deserve the best medical care possible, and sadly, you may need to be very vocal in order to receive it. My soon to be released book: Our Fault: The Infant Mortality Rate and the Black Community; will delve deeper. Ruminate, always seek out resources in your local community first, stand up for yourself, and try your best to reduce your stress levels through things like prayer meditation and thanksgiving; finally, be encouraged because there is hope!

The infant mortality rate for women of color is abysmal for a country that purports to be the richest on the planet. Where do we go from here? My upcoming book: Our Fault: The Infant Mortality Rate and the Black Community; will delve deeper.